Guess I'll be on my way.............

I am starting to feel like the unpopular kid at school that no-one wants to associate with.  I came here for some solidarity I suppose.........when you have cancer it feels so lonely, and something that only other folks who are going through can TRULY understand.  It seems very 'cliquey' here and perhaps is not the right forum for me.  A few days ago I asked for some much needed advice and I have not received one reply.  I know that we are all going through our own cancer traumas, and some of us (myself included) are not only dealing with our own illness, we are also trying to care for our partners who are extremely ill, but even so, I have taken the time to answer a few of the posts in the hope that I can be of some assistance, and I am frankly amazed that not one person has even bothered to advise me.  I will look for some company and solidairty elsewhere, this is obviously not the place for me.  To all of those who are suffering, or have loved ones suffering, from this cancer  nightmare, I wish you good luck, love and peace, xxx

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  • Hello Violetgirl

    I'm sorry that you feel this way. I can see that you posted in our Ask the Nurses topic area and sometimes members don't reply to posts there as they feel that people are specifically asking the nurses for advice and support. 

    Unfortunately with it being the bank holiday weekend, our nurse team is out of the office until 9 am tomorrow morning.

    The situation you've described in your other post is obviously a difficult one for everyone concerned. I'm not sure that I would know what to say to your friend's daughter. Whilst I myself have had cancer, and have loved ones who are living with cancer, my journey is different from yours and to everyone else's here on the forum. I think that if I were in your position I could only ask your friend's daughter if she'd like to talk and if she wanted to hear about my journey. I absolutely understand what you mean about "do you have the right to interfere with another woman's decision?". And that puts you in a difficult position. 

    Maybe you could approach your friend's daughter and explain that her Mum has asked you to talk with her. Maybe an open - I'm here to listen if you want to talk - approach may work but only you know how receptive she may be to what you have to say. I'm sure that her Oncologist, Consultant, and breast care nurse will have already spoken to her about the path that she's currently choosing to follow and offered their advice on what they see as the best way forwards to tackle her diagnosis. 

    Undoubtedly whatever path your friend's daughter chooses to take will not be an easy one. And I'm sure that your friend will need as much support as you can offer her as well. 

    The nurse team will reply to your original post as soon as they can but if you think it may help you, your friend, or your friend's daughter to chat with them they're available on 0808 800 4040, 9 am to 5 pm. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

  • Hi Moderator Jenn,

    I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you've had a cancer journey of your own and that you have family going through this as well. 

    Sending you and your loved ones big hugs and love ️

    Love Jess xx

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