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My dad has weeks to live

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Hi all,

We found out yesterday that my dad's chemo hasn't worked, the tumour has gotten bigger, and now, he has weeks left. 

I'm devastated. I don't know what to do, and I simply feel lost.

If anyone has any advice on how to get through these next few months, I'm all ears. It seems so far that I'm not sleeping well, and I have zero appetite.

I don't know what to do to console my dad, and my family. I'm scared of what the next few weeks are going to hold, and looking after him with end of life care.

What has others done, if situations like this, I feel like I can't even think clearly, so any suggestions, or words of advice are hugely appreciated.

 

Thanks,

 

Sammie

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    Hi Sammie01

    I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. I don't have any advice because I'm here for some advice myself, but I just didn't want to not respond. My Dad was disagnosed with prostate cancer 8 years ago and it's now spread to his spine. He's been on chemo this past year but it has battered his body and he has been in and out of hospital. He's currently in hospital really poorly and we were told yesterday that he now has only months left to live. Six weeks ago he was told if he continues with oral chemo he could have 6-10 years. How things can change so quickly has left us all very confused and angry.

    I'm so scared about what is going to happen over the coming months. Today I have had a day at home to take everything in and cry, a lot. Tomorrow I need to get back out there doing the hospital visits with my Mum and supporting her. I feel devastated for everyone on this site and hope you find aome way of coping. 

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    Hi Sammie01

    I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. I don't have any advice because I'm here for some advice myself, but I just didn't want to not respond. My Dad was disagnosed with prostate cancer 8 years ago and it's now spread to his spine. He's been on chemo this past year but it has battered his body and he has been in and out of hospital. He's currently in hospital really poorly and we were told yesterday that he now has only months left to live. Six weeks ago he was told if he continues with oral chemo he could have 6-10 years. How things can change so quickly has left us all very confused and angry.

    I'm so scared about what is going to happen over the coming months. Today I have had a day at home to take everything in and cry, a lot. Tomorrow I need to get back out there doing the hospital visits with my Mum and supporting her. I feel devastated for everyone on this site and hope you find aome way of coping. 

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