I'm sorry to hear about your dad's prognosis. It's hard to take. My own dad was told he had pancreatic cancer 6 weeks ago and told he had 2 months, maybe three. It's been very hard to take as his only really symptom was diaohrea, accompanied menacing by weight loss. I do t really have any words of comfort other than please know you're not alone in this journey. Thinking of you.  

Cheers for that. It's the not knowing is what's killing me the post. And how my mum will be afterwards. 
 

Do you mean the not knowing of when, how etc? I can relate to that. Since we were told my dad has still been pottering around but on Saturday he took a bad turn and I thought he was dying. He couldn't walk, got so cold and became almost unconscious and was sick. I thought that was the Start of the End but even now I do t know. He's now take to his bed for most of the day but can now get up again, has an appetite but easily exhausted. The district nurses told me today I have to try snd stop overthinking, think you should try this too. The problem is they don't tell us how do do it!!! My mind is constantly racing. I guess know one knows the answers to the questions.

When my mum died we were all devastated but we grieve and still do. Not sure we live on at first but we exist and we move forward slowly. I thought my dad would never manage but he did amazing well Xxx 

Thank you for all That. 
sorry, yes it's the not knowing when or if it happens. 
only got told yesterday and my mums is already sorting out banks accounts. And what we need to do etc. 
but I think she's just in shock at the moment. 
 

he's still up and walking. But gets out of breath. Sitting and talking is fine and he feels healthy within himself. 
 

am so up and down. Fine at work for hours then something triggers me and that's it have a cry. 
we lost our dog 5wks ago after 16yrs and that was bloody hard. But this is going to be another level. Think I would of been happier not know. And deal with it when it happens. 
 

so easy for people to say don't think to much about it. It's all you do and search google is a no no. 

I totally feel you. I'm sorry about your dog too. I'm also now looking after my furry sister who is 10 as dad can't manage her. My mum doted on her the she has been a great companion to my dad. Prob not the right time but on the other side, depending how your mum is another dog might help but only if she could manage it. 
 

My mum was my best friend and when she died my heart broke it two. I will never get over it but you do learn to live with it but it's a very personal journey. It is Another Level Stuff but you will grieve and go on slowly. Each in your own way. What happens at the end does matter. I find a way to cope now is ask myself...could I live with this decision because it is you and you're mum that live on. Sometimes things just spiral out of control and there is always guilt and regret, even anger to differing extents but the overwhelming emotion I felt was sadness. Nothing will prepare you. Time is probably the greatest gift you can give your dad just now and knowing you did your best is a comfort. Take care x

Sorry I just realised it was your own dog, not your mums. It's prob good that your mum gets the practicalities sorted. It needs done and will be easier than when you dad is no longer here. I found myself looking for something to wear do my own dads funeral the other day. I mean what??!! I bought it and it's sitting there but I just know when the time comes it will be one less thing to worry about it and I won't have to faff about  x 

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I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. It's very scary what you're all going through and I understand. My Dad was diagnosed with lung, pancreatic and liver cancer 7 months ago and 3 weeks ago we were told it had spread to his brain. Since then he's gradually becoming worse, he's still got an appetite but cannot walk unaided. Everyday we worry what will happen next but we just keep on going and carry on enjoying what time we have left with him. Life seems so unfair doesn't it, my Dad was a proud soldier for many years and to see him disappear in front of me is heartbreaking. I have accepted what's happening and I know what's to come but I try to live in the moment. 

Take care 

Thank you for the reply. 
 

It's the waiting game I hate. Just find it so unfair to put a sell by date on a life. 
if it was me I wouldn't want to know. 
 

just keep thinking in the back of my head. This is my dad. It shouldn't be like this. The man I look up to and he's always dropped everything to help me. 

so sorry to hear about your dad. my wife died in July 2020 from aggressive cancer. she knew she had cancer but did not want to know how long she had left. we knew it was less than two months. we brought her home for her last 6 weeks. other wise we would have never been allowed to see her hold her kiss her. it was and will be the hardest thing in the world to do. we talked to her about going on holiday the following year. it was heart wrenching lying to her. but we did it to protect her.  When your dads time is near remember the good things you did together. I know find I have my own battle with liver cancer I was told my life span is 1 to 2 years,  Pending I get accepted to go on a liver transplant list.I have know about my cancer, this was before the wife's cancer was diagnosed.. I have had time to get use to my time being up. just hope there is some kind of after life so I will be with my darling Carol. that's what keeps me with a smile on my face.

Hi

am so sorry you have lost your wife and now your going through it yourself. 
 

it's the not knowing am hating. Found out my dad has had a little cry but not over him. More about leaving my mum / wife alone. 
 

she is in a right mess with it all. And what I do or say just make her worst. So got to the point in saying nothing.