Hey [@T8421]‍ 

I read your post, and didn't want to just read it and run, as I have been where you are now, as have many of the lovely other people of this forum. My mum passed away at 55, 3 months ago after a very short period (5 weeks) between diagnosis and her not being with us anymore. 

The waiting, as you know, is so horrendous. The only advice I can give you is that your mum will still know you're close and with her, even if you think she's not acknowledging what you're saying so keep holding her hand and just being with her. This will honestly make her more comfortable than you know. I played music to her and just told my mum about what was going on, and she would at times, squeeze my hand, especially at times when I said I loved her, or that she could rest now, and we would be okay. 

I'm just genuinely sorry you're going through this, and I won't lie, it is an incredibly tough journey, but your mum will leave you her strength to continue on, and as cliche as it sounds, she will always be with you. I feel my mum's love still, and I've had some very tricky days without her.  

If you ever want a chat, just let me know. But I'm sending you lots of love and strength for the coming days, weeks and months. It may seem like you won't be okay, but your mum will make sure you are. Take care of yourself XXX

Hey [@T8421]‍ 

I read your post, and didn't want to just read it and run, as I have been where you are now, as have many of the lovely other people of this forum. My mum passed away at 55, 3 months ago after a very short period (5 weeks) between diagnosis and her not being with us anymore. 

The waiting, as you know, is so horrendous. The only advice I can give you is that your mum will still know you're close and with her, even if you think she's not acknowledging what you're saying so keep holding her hand and just being with her. This will honestly make her more comfortable than you know. I played music to her and just told my mum about what was going on, and she would at times, squeeze my hand, especially at times when I said I loved her, or that she could rest now, and we would be okay. 

I'm just genuinely sorry you're going through this, and I won't lie, it is an incredibly tough journey, but your mum will leave you her strength to continue on, and as cliche as it sounds, she will always be with you. I feel my mum's love still, and I've had some very tricky days without her.  

If you ever want a chat, just let me know. But I'm sending you lots of love and strength for the coming days, weeks and months. It may seem like you won't be okay, but your mum will make sure you are. Take care of yourself XXX

Thank you both so much for replying, we've had the nurse in today and it's not good news she's not got long left at all we are talking hours! She's very sleepy and very confused, it's just a waiting game now, but I'm trying to be strong for her husband and my little sister and brother. Thx again for replying [@Newlife101]‍ [@Patsy12345]‍ 

So sorry to hear about your mum we are going through exactly the same it's heartbreaking my mum will be getting the syringe driver tomorrow it's awful thinking about it but like yourself I'm just trying to make her as comfortable as she can be she only 56 xxx

Bless you no not a nice thing to go through haven't needed syringe driver as yet but we know it's an option, mines 53 also lost my nan to throat cancer at 56 so 50s really aren't a good age for us! At the moment she's very confused and disorientated and not really making much sense at the moment either. Very hard to see her like this :(

[@Gradon]‍ [@T8421]‍ 

Sending lots of love, and strength to you both. Thinking of you xxx

Thank you means a lot I find this group really helpful I no nothing prepares you for what's in front it's just the thought of been without my mam the only real comfort I take from all this is knowing she will be with my brother he died in 2018 on turkey he was only 29 xxx