Mum has terminal lung cancer

Hi everyone, this is my first post here. Not something I wanted to do but this is where I am. My mum was diagnosed with Lung Cancer back in January. She has always been super fit before that. The only sig. We had was she coughed up a little blood and then things snowballed from there. It turned out she had Metastatic Kidney Cancer and now Some small tumours in the brain. She has been managing ok but things seem to be getting worse. She had Srs radiotherapy for her brain mets and that seemed to go ok. We are about 1 and a half weeks later now and she is really struggling. Constantly tired and struggling to get around like she did. She says she's constantly tired and has a lot of aching on her right hand side.

She's not in any pain now we got the medication sorted but I'm constantly worried. I'm hoping she will pick back up again. She had a patch before where she was constantly tired and she came back round to be more active. I'm worried out of my mind that she will keep declining. Could this tiredness be down to the brain radiotherapy. She seemed ok when she had it but she was on steroids. The doctor said 6-9 months then 9-12 if they can get control of the cancer. She is supposed to be having radiotherapy for her lung but I'm not sure what will happen with her feeling weaker. She wasn't so bad only a few days ago and now she is very tired again. I just don't know how to cope with losing my mum. She's my life and I will be lost without her. I've been living with her at home for the past 18 years due to my own illness. We are so close and it feels like my world is falling apart. I know other people go through this but I am struggling. This is the hardest thing I will ever have to do. Muly mum is 65, she still feels so young to me. Thank you for reading. 

Parents
  • Hi , 

    So sorry for what you ate going through ! i am going through it with my Dad sthe hardest thing I have ever gone through ! Cancer is so evil ! 

    My Dad ened up in Hospital last Monday so weak could hardly get of the sofa....heartbreaking he left like a diffrent man ! His pottasium was low so the gave hin an infusion , bloods also showed he had an infection so he was given antibiotics and started back on his steriods .

    Do not assume its your Mum's cancer worsening ! ask for bloods if not had recently and maybe some steriods to boost her , if people say no ask why ? 

    If she is not eating much little and often and high calorie / high fat , try fortisps / forti juice / complan etc .

    Sending love and hugs 

    xxxxxxxxxx

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  • Hi , 

    So sorry for what you ate going through ! i am going through it with my Dad sthe hardest thing I have ever gone through ! Cancer is so evil ! 

    My Dad ened up in Hospital last Monday so weak could hardly get of the sofa....heartbreaking he left like a diffrent man ! His pottasium was low so the gave hin an infusion , bloods also showed he had an infection so he was given antibiotics and started back on his steriods .

    Do not assume its your Mum's cancer worsening ! ask for bloods if not had recently and maybe some steriods to boost her , if people say no ask why ? 

    If she is not eating much little and often and high calorie / high fat , try fortisps / forti juice / complan etc .

    Sending love and hugs 

    xxxxxxxxxx

Children
  • Hi Mich, I'm so sorry to hear you are going though this, it's so tough and you do feel helpless at times. I hope your dad is feeling a little better now and the infection has cleared up. My mum had a similar thing were she needed blood infusions as she had hyper Calcimia. It did help her feel a little better. She has passed away now unfortunately but thank you for the kind words. I hope your dad continues to improve and you get him home soon. I wish you all the best.