Mum has terminal lung cancer

Hi everyone, this is my first post here. Not something I wanted to do but this is where I am. My mum was diagnosed with Lung Cancer back in January. She has always been super fit before that. The only sig. We had was she coughed up a little blood and then things snowballed from there. It turned out she had Metastatic Kidney Cancer and now Some small tumours in the brain. She has been managing ok but things seem to be getting worse. She had Srs radiotherapy for her brain mets and that seemed to go ok. We are about 1 and a half weeks later now and she is really struggling. Constantly tired and struggling to get around like she did. She says she's constantly tired and has a lot of aching on her right hand side.

She's not in any pain now we got the medication sorted but I'm constantly worried. I'm hoping she will pick back up again. She had a patch before where she was constantly tired and she came back round to be more active. I'm worried out of my mind that she will keep declining. Could this tiredness be down to the brain radiotherapy. She seemed ok when she had it but she was on steroids. The doctor said 6-9 months then 9-12 if they can get control of the cancer. She is supposed to be having radiotherapy for her lung but I'm not sure what will happen with her feeling weaker. She wasn't so bad only a few days ago and now she is very tired again. I just don't know how to cope with losing my mum. She's my life and I will be lost without her. I've been living with her at home for the past 18 years due to my own illness. We are so close and it feels like my world is falling apart. I know other people go through this but I am struggling. This is the hardest thing I will ever have to do. Muly mum is 65, she still feels so young to me. Thank you for reading. 

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  • Hi Sigill79, this is my first post on here too as I'm trying anything to ease the suffering my Dad is going through. You sound like a really nice person, caring for your mum & you have your own health problems too. Your mum sounds like she is suffering from side effects of chemotherapy. My Dad is 84 & was like your mum, fit as a fiddle. He worked until he was 78 years old in the building trade. So your mum might be strong enough for next round of chemo because she is fit even though she feels fatigued. My dad is stage 4 palliative care chemo & radio. Unfortunately, they caught my Dads stomach cancer too late & it has spread to his spleen & pancreas & more worryingly in his spinal cord near vital nerves so might lose the use of his legs. Can I ask, is your eating & drinking? Try everything to try to build your mum's strength back up. My Dad has stopped eating & won't drink anything now, not even a cup tea because the steroids have stopped working & everything is making him feel sick. But because he has looked after his body all these, he is some how still fit enough for each chemo session. I think your mum has age on her side & is fit apart from the cancer so hopefully she will bounce back. I would ring McMillan & nutritionists to get advice. That is what I'm going to do on Monday morning because my Dad is only suffering now and he isn't receiving proper palliative care. Please keep me updated. Although this is an absolute horrific subject, it's good to talk. 

  • Hi Mark1978, so sorry to hear about your father. I wish you all the best and hope that the chemo does give him some strength. This is a terrible time and it is difficult to cope. Unfortunately my mum passed away 2 days ago. She battled as much as she could but she was too tired and we had to let her go. I wish you well with your father and hope you manage to get him the proper care he needs. All the best.

    Simon

     

  • I am so sorry to hear about my your mum passing. It's greatly appreciated that you took the time time to message when you must be heart broken. Take care Simon

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