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Cant come to terms with mum dying

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My first time posting the other day, and yesterday we got the news that mum only has weeks left. I'm finding it so hard to come to terms with this. I have different emotions of being upset and then so angry. She can't go yet she is too special and kind and beautiful. It just doesn't seem real that this is happening. I'm so strong for mum when I'm talking to her on the phone, but rest of the time I'm just uncontrollably crying and not functioning. Mum seems to be accepting it really well and I'm so proud of her, she's just amazing. I want to make sure all her wishes are fulfilled, but I'm scared I'm not going to be able to do that because of time and distance, she lives quite far away. I am trying my hardest to focus on what mum wants, as I want her to be the comfiest and happiest she could be, but how do I approach what she would like? How do I know she will be comfortable with that discussion? I have so many thoughts and questions going through my head. Thankyou xx

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    Oh I'm so sorry to hear this, My Mummy found out a month ago that she has cancer. She lives in NZ so there is no way I can see her again. She has been in out of hospital and now her liver is giving up. I feel upset/ cross/ left out/ alone/ left with no answers etc. I am griving already, but still on hold all the time. I can't cope eaither. May be that hasnt helped. Please excuse my spelling. Im not feeling my best at the moment. xx

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    [@ME2012]‍, I cannot imagine how you are feeling right now, you must be so brave. Sending lots of love and hugs to you. Although it's still new to me, I've now realised that different emotions are normal, you have every right to be sad, angry confused etc. I also agree with grieving aswell, I have felt that too. My friend lost her mum, some time ago now, but she has really helped me in regards to coping with it, she said time is a good healer and we will eventually feel better. I am always here if you need to chat, I think it helps when people share the same experiences. I'm sending all my love to you xxx

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    [@ME2012]‍, I cannot imagine how you are feeling right now, you must be so brave. Sending lots of love and hugs to you. Although it's still new to me, I've now realised that different emotions are normal, you have every right to be sad, angry confused etc. I also agree with grieving aswell, I have felt that too. My friend lost her mum, some time ago now, but she has really helped me in regards to coping with it, she said time is a good healer and we will eventually feel better. I am always here if you need to chat, I think it helps when people share the same experiences. I'm sending all my love to you xxx

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