Hi, 

I am so sorry about your mum,  everything your feeling is absolutely normal.  

My mum too is in her last weeks. It is heat breaking. 

Some days I can talk bluntly and not get upset. Other times i blub mid sentence without warning.  

For me not knowing how long we have is the hardest thing. 

We are in week 3 of "weeks not months"

If your mum has accepted the news. Then I'm sure you can approach the subject gently. She maybe be afraid of upsetting you too. 

I'm sure MacMillan and palletive care will be involved too and will ask some questions of Ur mum's wishes too. 

Has she got other people with her?

Is she currently able to do things?  Perhaps ask if there is anywhere she wants to go? Or anyone she'd like to see? 

This site has been such a great relief to talk to to people who can relate and understand but that are not involved.  So many kind words and truthful. Which is what we all need at times like these x

Hey [@Asmit88]‍ 

I am really sorry to hear about your mum, it's probably one of the toughest things you will ever hear as a child, and a real testament to your mother's character.

I have very recently lost my mother to cancer which was misdiagnosed for a long period of time, so was already too advanced to treat, my mum, however, was very much like yours. Took the news as well as you can, remained positive and genuinely just enjoyed every moment we had together as a family. I was so proud of her, and I know in time, you will cherish this about your mum too.

Will your mum be at home, or in a hospice? Will you be able to go and see her to spend time with her? I know at the moment covid restrictions are in place, but my mum was discharged from hospital, into a hospice where we were allowed to spend 24 hours a day with her. Do you think that's something that may be possible for you? Depending on your mum's health at the moment, that may allow walks outside, even if for a short period. I am sure both you, and her will absolutely treasure these moments. My grief is so present, and unbelievably raw still, but I am thankful for this and it seems to help me through very dark moments right now.

Sending you lots of love for the coming weeks, I hope you manage to spend the time that both you and your mum truly deserve together. 

If I can help in absolutely anyway at all, please please message. XX

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this, My Mummy found out a month ago that she has cancer. She lives in NZ so there is no way I can see her again. She has been in out of hospital and now her liver is giving up. I feel upset/ cross/ left out/ alone/ left with no answers etc. I am griving already, but still on hold all the time. I can't cope eaither. May be that hasnt helped. Please excuse my spelling. Im not feeling my best at the moment. xx

I've just found out My mam has stage 4 , really can't come to terms with the thoughts of losing her :( so sorry to hear about your mam too

Hi [@Lmmrose]‍ , Thankyou for taking the time to read my post. I'm also so sorry to hear about your mum. Thankyou for reassuring me that my feelings are normal. I totally agree that it's the not knowing how long is the hardest. I have been able to see her today which has helped me massively. She is in a hospice at the moment for recovery and are allowing 2 visitors to spend 3hrs each person per day which is great, so I have travelled to her today. She looks so well. She is not mobile at present as she has spent  since new year in a bed, but the staff at the hospice have said they are trying to get her a little more mobile within the next week whilst she is there. She is returning home after the hospice. I'm hoping we can get her in the wheelchair when she is home to take her to her favourite place where she met her fiancé.  I have only been part of this forum a few days and it has helped me loads reading other people's experiences.  I'm always here to chat if you like, I think it helps massively talking to someone who is also experiencing the same thing. Xxx

Hi [@Newlife101]‍ , Thankyou for reading my post. I'm so sorry about the loss of your mum, and what you and her have had to go through.  Such brave ladies to accept what has happened to them. I am so proud of my mum, she's been brave through all parts of her life, and especially through her battle with this horrible disease. I only hope I am as strong as her one day. Mum has been moved to a hospice for a week or so to help build her mobility, she wants to be at home so hopefully will be there soon. I have travelled and managed to see her today which has helped me massively. She is allowed 2 visitors 3hrs each per day which is great!  I hope your grief will start to ease soon, my friend also lost her mum and said that time was a good healer. Thankyou for your love and support it is really appreciated xx

[@ME2012]‍, I cannot imagine how you are feeling right now, you must be so brave. Sending lots of love and hugs to you. Although it's still new to me, I've now realised that different emotions are normal, you have every right to be sad, angry confused etc. I also agree with grieving aswell, I have felt that too. My friend lost her mum, some time ago now, but she has really helped me in regards to coping with it, she said time is a good healer and we will eventually feel better. I am always here if you need to chat, I think it helps when people share the same experiences. I'm sending all my love to you xxx

[@sar.3434]‍  I'm so so sorry to hear about your mam, it's an awful situation to experience. I don't think we will ever really come to terms with it, but we will manage and cope as time goes on. What stage is your mum at? I'm always here if you need to chat and feel free to message at any time Xxx

She's at stage 4 and she thinks she won't make it through it now. It's travelled around a good bit and now it's in her face . I really just can't come to terms with the thoughts of not having my mam around it's like I'm in a nightmare :( xx