Weeks not months

Good morning

I can't even begin process the last few weeks 

My mum got taken to hospital with an infection 19th February. They said it was sepsis. after more scans the next day we had the devastating news that they discovered she has bowel cancer that has also spread to her liver.

4 days later whilst she was in hospital she had a stroke.

Covid has meant a huge restriction on visiting. Where dad was only allowed on for an hour a day. 

We were informed she had agreed to a DNR

A few day later they said they could not over any treatment for the cancer as mums body would not handle it. 

My dad was called in to the hospital for a meeting with mum.....  Nothing more they can do.  The doctor said he thinks weeks not months

Someone in the ward then tested positive for covid resulting in mum and dad both having to isolate for 10 days

Mum is now home. And I pleased as its what she wanted. 

I'm just really struggling to process this.  We are already 2 weeks in to "weeks not months" I don't know how close we are to the end.  Everyday I wake up knowing it's a day closer to losing mum.

She turns 60 a week today 

 

* Mum passed away this morning (7th April)at 3.47 

The last few days have been horrendous and my heart is broken x

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  • Hi 

    I have found out today myself that my dad has been diagnosed with bowel cancer. The news have been so hard to digest and I'm not coping at all. I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. I'm so angry at life right now and I'm sure you are too. There's nothing in this world that could make it any easier. I don't want to lose my dad and it hurts so bad. Sending you all the hugs.

  • I'm so sorry for Ur dad too.  I think iv gone through my angry stage in the first week. I was so bitter about everything and with everyone.  Especially with covid. There's a year of memories and prescious time missing. And I really found it difficult to not be angry at people not following rules still. I guess I was looking for someone to blame.

    Now I just feel incredibly helpless and extremely sad. 

    What is the prognosis for Ur dad. Is he able to get treatment? How is Ur dad coping? 

     

  • Yeah I'm definitely at my angry stage now but the helpless feeli is here and the sadness and it's very overwhelming at times. I'll have a meltdown and then I'll be okish and then back to a meltdown. I just wish I could take it all away. Covid means we can't even travel to see him and that's so hard because I want to be there to hug him and cry with him and tell him I love him. It's so unfair that people have been so carefree about the pandemic, it's definitely prolonged it and caused so much damage. 
     

    They're going to find out in 10 days if they're going to be able to operate on him and I really really hope they'll be able to. From what they said it's quite big, he needs a set of scans and then they'll know. My situation is in no way the same as yours as we don't know yet what's what and my heart breaks for you and your family. I wish there was a magic wand that would have the power to take all the suffering away

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  • Yeah I'm definitely at my angry stage now but the helpless feeli is here and the sadness and it's very overwhelming at times. I'll have a meltdown and then I'll be okish and then back to a meltdown. I just wish I could take it all away. Covid means we can't even travel to see him and that's so hard because I want to be there to hug him and cry with him and tell him I love him. It's so unfair that people have been so carefree about the pandemic, it's definitely prolonged it and caused so much damage. 
     

    They're going to find out in 10 days if they're going to be able to operate on him and I really really hope they'll be able to. From what they said it's quite big, he needs a set of scans and then they'll know. My situation is in no way the same as yours as we don't know yet what's what and my heart breaks for you and your family. I wish there was a magic wand that would have the power to take all the suffering away

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