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Mom has a terminal diagnosis

Vicky98
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I'm really just looking for someone to talk to that maybe went through or is going through something similar that I am because I feel so alone like I have no one to talk to and no one understands me...

i am 22 and my mam has a terminal diagnosis her prognosis is very poor... she's only in her early 40s... I've an older sister and 4 younger siblings youngest is 2... just so unfair that such young kids will be left without a mother... our dad is still in the picture but we've all been close with my mam and I'm just not coping with the idea of losing her, I need her, sometimes it feels like I only have her and without her I'd be left with nothing... 

would be nice to have someone to talk to really 

thanks,

vicky 

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    Vicky I am really so sorry that your mum is so sick and so young. I am 48 and was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer 19 months ago. The cancer has spread to my lungs but I'm still staying positive as I have 3 kids aged 16,23 and 27 and my biggest worry is leaving them. I also lost my mum 4 years ago to kidney cancer exactly the same cancer in same kidney that I have it. However my mums cancer went to her bones and she died 10 weeks after diagnosis and I still miss her. However I am still feeling fit and well and almost 'normal' . I feel my age and positive attitude are keeping me alive. I am hopefully starting a clinical trial very soon to try and control the cancer in my lungs. Despite having advanced cancer i am going nowhere and hope to live for a few years yet. 
    You say your mum has terminal diagnosis but how is she in herself and have the doctors given a life expectancy as everyone is different? If you need to talk I am here for you during this heartbreaking situation. There is no easy way to get through this but in my experience talking to others helps. My thoughts are with you x

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    Hi Vicky,

    I am so sorry about your mum and what you are going through at the moment. My mum has larangeal cancer diagnosed two weeks ago which is advanced. She is 69 I am 42. I am devestated. I am numb. She's unaware of what's happening as she is in denial and has short term memory problems. We have been told that palliative care would be the kindest / best option for her.. please know you are not alone. You will get through this. Wishing you strength on this journey you are facing x

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    Hi Vicky,

    I am so sorry about your mum and what you are going through at the moment. My mum has larangeal cancer diagnosed two weeks ago which is advanced. She is 69 I am 42. I am devestated. I am numb. She's unaware of what's happening as she is in denial and has short term memory problems. We have been told that palliative care would be the kindest / best option for her.. please know you are not alone. You will get through this. Wishing you strength on this journey you are facing x

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