My mum is in the last days, I feel so unable to cope

Hi everyone

It's my first time here posting but I've read so many threads and hoping that people have some advice.

My mum has had a very short time between diagnosis and the time we were all told she has a few days to live.

She is really now becoming so unwell. She's in a hospice with days to live. I'm trying so, so hard to be grateful that I had this time with her, but I am also completely heartbroken. She's being so, so brave. And told me and my brother we are going to have to continue our lives, at the moment I can't see how I will do that. 

One moment, I feel positive and am thankful for the time that we had with her, she dedicated her whole life to raising me and my brother and for that I will be forever grateful but then at other times I'm struggling to breathe. It feels like a really bad dream that I'm desperatly trying to wake myself up from.

Seeing her in her hospital bed yesterday with us all around her with days to live at 55 feels unfair, and I'm utterly in dispair of the next coming months.

Does anyone have any tips on how to cope with this? I don't know if I'll be able to carry on. I feel angry becaise I don't feel people understand. My friends that I have told are trying to help, but whatever they say is just not enough right now. Is this normal?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • Hi Newlife 

    I wanted to respond as I'm going through the same thing with my mum right now too. I'm so sorry you are going through this and I can completely understand everything you said. I feel my heart is broken into pieces and i cant see how I will ever feel ok again.

    All I can say is your mum will be thankful to have you around her at this time and try and be strong for her.

    I know there are no words that can take the pain away. Just take time for yourself and lean on those close to you.

    Massive hugs to you.

  • Hey KTGem

    I'm genuinely so sorry to hear about your mum. 

    It's absolutely horrendous, isn't it. No one prepares you for this at all. 

    Wishing you lots of love for the rest of your journey with this, I don't know about you but I'm trying to take hour by hour at the moment. A month from now seems to painful to even think about at the moment.

    x

     

     

     

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  • Hey KTGem

    I'm genuinely so sorry to hear about your mum. 

    It's absolutely horrendous, isn't it. No one prepares you for this at all. 

    Wishing you lots of love for the rest of your journey with this, I don't know about you but I'm trying to take hour by hour at the moment. A month from now seems to painful to even think about at the moment.

    x

     

     

     

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