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Bowel cancer and now Too weak for chemo

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My dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer in December 2020. We were told that it was completely curable and an operation was booked for 30th December. During the operation they found that the tumour was too big and that they needed to then do chemo. 

Chemo was supposed to start 4th February, the day prior they then stated that my dad was too weak for it. They said that it would be more detrimental to him. They have now said that the tumour has grown (still contained within the bowel) but they have said that he now only has weeks to live. 

We just feel so hopeless, it's all a shock. How has it got to this, how can my dad now only have weeks to live? How is there nothing that can be done?

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    Hi 

    I just wanted to say I'm sorry about your dad.

    I am in a very similar situation with my mum. 2 weeks ago we were told she had "weeks not months".

    She went in on 19th February with an infection. The next day she was diagnosed with agressive bowel cancer.

    It is such a huge shock isn't it. And covid restrictions do not help. So many people would like to visit her. 

    How is Ur dad in himself at the moment?  I hope u are able to enjoy Ur precious time left. 

    I can't seem to process it. I almost don't believe it. I'm terrified of the weeks ahead.

    Everyday I wake up and know it's a day closer to losing mum. 

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    Hey, thank you for your message. I am so sorry to hear about your mom, I can relate in every single way. I can't imagine what a shock that was. How old is your mom?!

    My dad sadly passed away on 9th March I am beyond devestated and miss him more than anything. I would say we had a good two weeks of dad being himself, then he started to sleep more and then obviously the last two days he was unconscious. It was my moms birthday on the 8th march too but he held on. 

    Honestly enjoy every minute with your mom, I didn't believe it was real, lived in denial right up until the point he passed away and part of me still doesn't believe it is true now, yet we are planning his funeral. 

    I used to wake in panic everymorning thinking this cannot be real. I am here if you need or want someone to talk too xxxx

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    Hey, thank you for your message. I am so sorry to hear about your mom, I can relate in every single way. I can't imagine what a shock that was. How old is your mom?!

    My dad sadly passed away on 9th March I am beyond devestated and miss him more than anything. I would say we had a good two weeks of dad being himself, then he started to sleep more and then obviously the last two days he was unconscious. It was my moms birthday on the 8th march too but he held on. 

    Honestly enjoy every minute with your mom, I didn't believe it was real, lived in denial right up until the point he passed away and part of me still doesn't believe it is true now, yet we are planning his funeral. 

    I used to wake in panic everymorning thinking this cannot be real. I am here if you need or want someone to talk too xxxx

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