My 25 year old son became ill January 2020 and due to covid and doctors delays we didn't find out he had cancer again until May 2020. He has now had 3 different types of chemotherapy as the specialists were unable to name the tumour exactly. But we found out this week that the tumour is too aggressive and they have no other options open.
He is now at his home with his girlfriend that lives with having been told he only has weeks to live.
The first and second night home I was invited to stay at their house with them but then his girlfriend has asked for some time alone. My husband, his brother and I are able to visit at times during the day but when I'm not with him I feel sick because I feel I need to be with him.
He had cancer before when he was 5 and I spent every minute with him, either at home or in the hospital where I stayed with him. I'm finding it really difficult this time to have to spend anytime away from him. I understand they have their relationship but this is very difficult to cope with at the moment.
At the moment is is mobile and is having a reasonably normal existence with a syringe driver and Macmillan and district nurses visiting him at home. I'm worried that if he does eventually go to a hospice then because of covid there will be limited visiting. Probably only his girlfriend will be able to visit.
How do I broach this subject with his girlfriend that I have this need to be with him constantly or do I just have to step back and wait for invitation to stay? Has anyone else been in this situation?
