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Hi 

My Dad had a fall 2 weeks ago and had to go to hospital, he was discharged and we were told his tests results came back clear.  4 days later my dad starting experiencing numbness in the top of half of his legs, by the time the paramedics came he was paralysed from the waist down.  He was taken to a different hospital and they confirmed he had a compressed spine which caused the paralysis and that he had advanced cancer.  Numerous scans later and they could not find the primary source of his cancer, which we had trouble getting to terms with.  A week later he's still in hospital and they still have no idea where the primary source is.  It's been a devasting couple of weeks as he is now being treated by Pallitive Care in the hospital for End of Life.  We were told he may not make it through the weekend.  He's got the "death rattle" and is in and out of consciousness.  He's not eating anymore and is barely drinking.  The hospital have been great at keeping his pain under control, so I'm thankful for that.  I just can't get over how quick it's all happened.  We are all devastated obviously.  We were originally told he had a few months to live and now 2 weeks from his initial fall he's nearly end of Life... I just can't get my head around it and I can't believe it's happening 

thanks

Michelle 

 

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    Evening Michelle, 

    I am so sorry to hear of your dear dad and your family having to go through this. It is tough on everyone when something like this happens. Thank god the hospital are keeping on top of his pain. 
    Sometimes there are no words and this is one of those times. I will do a prayer for your dear dad and your family. Dig deep, you have the strength but it's still heart breaking. 
     

    sending you a ton of healing energy, 

     

     

    Monique x ️

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    Hello Miche,

    It is 18 months today that my wife passed with Pancreatic cancer and simular to what you are going through, the last 2 weeks of her illness were extremely devastating and unbearable, and in many ways unreal, and even now I constantly go over all that had happened.

    I wish I could go back and spend a few more hours before the end and say things that I never got to say.

    If your dad is still with you, keep by his side and hold his hand.

    Best wishes 

     

     

     

     

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    Good evening Michelle, 

    It must be such a shock for you and your family, like the other comments its good that they have his pain under control and he’s not suffering. The death rattle is so upsetting, I only experienced this when my dad passed away last year, I found it so distressing it made me feel so unsettled. All you can do is be there talk to him, somewhere in his brain he is conscious and he will be listening to you for comfort, it’s not easy watching the one of the people you love more then life just disappear.

    I wish you all the best, and hope you can find comfort reading these lovely messages from others too, Fern x 

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    Hi Michelle,

    im so sorry to hear about your dad. My dad passed away in may this year after a hard battle. They said he would have months, he managed 2 weeks. Although that was tough for us still here, we took peace in that he didn't have to suffer for too long. He was able to rest again. It's so cruel and takes our loved ones so quickly! Take care x
     

    All my love to you and your family. 

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    So sorry to read this. I have today lost my dad in very similar circumstances. All I can do is wish you love and he will know you love him and make hiM comfortable. Sending you love xx

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