Prognosis shock

So this might come out as a ramble for which I'm sorry for, my mum was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer on 30th March , it's in both lungs, adrenal glands, lymph nodes and small peritoneal deposits. On the 7th of April she went into hospital with a collapsed lung, I was told a week later she had less than 4 weeks. She decided to come home sometimes I think she's doing ok , she can wash herself, but it's difficult I think she's just trying to keep her independence as much as possible. The confusion is getting worse the past couple of days , thinking she needs to go somewhere, I could really use some help/advice. None of my family can come because of the coronavirus so I'm pretty much in my own apart from my partner who helps out. Thanks

  • Welcome to the Cancer Chat forum Lea although I'm sorry for the reason you've joined us.

    It can be difficult looking after someone in the latters stages of their cancer journey but I'm glad you've reached out as many of our members have also been in this position with their loved ones so will understand what you're going through at the moment and hopefully some of them will offer their advice to you soon.

    You can get in touch with our cancer nurses on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m as they'll do all they can to help you at this time as well.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi there, so sorry to hear about your mum. It’s such a horrible thing to go through. Sending you and your family lots of strength right now. 

    I am also in a similar position. My partner’s mum has just been diagnosed with lung cancer and brain metastasis. We’re currently looking after her - the same situation you’re in, no one else is allowed to come round due to COVID. It is so incredibly hard. Each day, or rather, each hour is so different to the next. She’s so confused all the time; forgetting what she has said or what she’s doing. She’s sleeping a lot these past few days. She was only diagnosed 3 weeks ago. I’m having to get her dressed now as she can’t manage it. Trying to stay positive for my partner and his mum and keep smiling but im honestly heartbroken. 

    Sorry for going on, I could just relate to your situation. 

  • I'm sorry to hear about your situation, this is the worst thing I've ever seen and I think will ever live to see. Current update is her delusions are getting worse, hardly eating anything at all and her feet are always freezing cold. Myself and my partner have our own flat, but we have to take it in turns to be here through the night as she often wakes up between 3 and 4am. It's very physically and emotionally draining, as much as I love my mum, I know she is suffering right now and it's hard watching her deteriorate in front of my eyes . I ask the nurses how long she has , but they don't give a timeframe, usually they don't see that side to her as for some reason she perks up when they are here. All we can do is our best and fulfil my mums wishes of being at home. 

    im sure you are both doing a fantastic job,  Sending you strength to you and your partner . X

    leanne