Hey, 

I was the same age as you when i lost my dad to cancer, he was so ill it was heart breaking, he was my rock my hero too but in time i learned to take strenghth from all the values he taught me and every day put one step in front of another.

Sadly my 26 year old son now has a grade 4 brain cancer, there is no treatment, right now you are probably questioning how you go on let alone support anyone else. Draw on every resource possible, accept every offer of help no matter how small or big.

My thoughts are with you 

Pollyjo x

Oh god I'm so sorry to hear that my dad is still doing the daily things as he would without the cancer and he's staying positive so I have to embrace that make good like dad is and stay positive like dad is it's just hard I break down when I'm not with my dad and when I have to face reality when all I want to do is stay in my little bubble , Thanks for reading my story anc telling me yours , I know I'm not alone in this community if you need to talk I'm here for you x

Hi Sarah i'm afraid i find the internet difficult to navigate but i hope you get this message.

How are you today and how is your Dad doing ? Everything you write is exactly how i felt/feel. I carry a picture of my Dad in my purse and even now when i look at it i feel as if i will breakdown (so i have to pick my moment) everything you are going through and feeling right now is completely normal, there is no wrong/right way to cope with this desperately sad time you are going through. Please keep speaking to people and don't hide away it's the worst thing you can do and will sink you deeper into despair. i promise you will get through this, if i can anyone can and i know how much i struggled to the point i nearly did something silly please don't go there it's a dark place to be. Not only did i lose my Dad and Mum before but i also lost my beloved big sister to a brain tumour ten years ago. life tests you and this is your test, please keep in touch i don't often go online but will look out for you. take care x

Hi hun dads at a Christian event i can't drag myself out of this black hole , I went to the gym yesterday and just cried all the time I was there , I didn't sleep last night as couldn't stop crying , seing my dad like that put things into perspective as I've been in total denial about it all like I was when my sister took her last breath due to cancer I didn't know she was dying until she died then I threw up in shock, it's like a ticking time bomb not knowing how long my dad has left seing him deteriorate just makes it worse . Dad has a big house with lots of just random stuff in I'm trying to sort stuff out like he wants me to but I don't know where to start I need charity  shops to come and collect items and a big skip but dad doesn't want that , I just can't cope with everything my dad , the house the barns I know this sounds daft but it's all just getting to much for me to cope with , my house has a place for everything but my dads house is just not a house I need help mentally and physically but don't know where to start x

Sarah call your doctor for medical help they may be able to give you some medication to get you through, The Samaritans are great listeners. You don't need to do everything now it can be done in stages, you're feeling overwhelmed at the moment and not in the right frame of mind to deal with this. Your Dad is still here and these jobs can be done at a much later stage, i take it your not being held to a timeframe. Focus on letting your Dad see you happy and secure. i will e-mail as and when i can buy quite often i am away from the computer.  Take Care please x

I'm at the doctors tomorrow so see what he says and my dad has gone over his time frame but is getting worse by the day , the problem being is the bank has taken my dads house so we have to get things sorted so my head is all pickled , I pray the doctors will help me tomorrow as every day is getting worse and the black hole is getting bigger x

oh my goodness of course i don't want to know the details of your Father's house being taken by the bank, have you tried calling charities/shops as many will take larger items if you are not wanting to sell them. Have you friends or family you can call on to help clear the property ? You can't possible be expected to do it all on your own, if no-one can help speak with the bank and explain the situation you are in and make sure they record your conversation as this may buy you more time. The Doctor hopefully will be able to give you something to get you through. What about getting some advice from the Citizens Advice and CRUISE bereavment care (i know it's not applicable now thankfully) but they may be able to offer you some comfort/advice. Please stay strong, this will pass x

Sorry I need to talk to someone my dads sorted the bank out and given him more time , my brother is helping and my mim

, there divorced , I can't stop crying is this normal ? Dads not scared of dying as he knows he's going uo heaven I just want him to be around im

going to miss him so much x

Sarah, it is perfectly normal to cry at anytime so don't feel you are the only one. Of course you are going to miss him and will always want him to be around, but for any child however old it is a natural assumption that our parents will leave us at some time in our lives. Be grateful your Dad is not afraid Sarah that is a blessing and spend as much time with him now as you can telling him what you want to say and how you are feeling. My Dad as i'm sure yours is always protective no matter how old their children may be. Let him know you will be ok when he's gone even if it's a little white lie, don't let him be worrying, so when the time comes he can pass in peace. Grief is enormous and people deal with it in their own way. I am a very private person and very few people see me cry and breakdown, but it happens and there is nothing you can do about it, it is part of the healing process, it's a long road and will take a long time to come to terms with any loss. As i tell people now i miss my Dad so much but truly blessed he was my Dad and however painful it is to think of him i would'nt change anything other than turn back time. Sarah i am away for a couple of days from tomorrow and don't take my laptop with me but i will be thinking of you. Stay strong, and please talk with your doctor tomorrow and tell him everything and hopefully he will be able to help you. Take care i will be thinking of you. x