Hello Sarah

I'm so glad to hear that you've reached out to the forum and also to the Samaritans for support. I know that a number of members here have said how beneficial they found it knowing that there was someone available to talk to at the end of the phone day or night. 

From your post I think it would be sensible to speak to your GP at some point this week. I'm sure that if you explain everything that's been going on with your Dad and how you're feeling that they will be able to discuss what support might be available to you. 

I do hope that you're able to get some rest tonight, even if you can't sleep properly. And if you do need to speak to someone again then don't be afraid to call back the Samaritans for support. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator

I have a doctors appointment on Wednesday and he's brilliant he knows what is happening so I don't need to say much he will know , thanks for getting back to me so quickly I just can't see a way that im going to cope , dad said he was cold aswell but still has gone to this Christian group fir the week , I just want to cuddle him , how am I going to cope when he's not here ? X

Hi Sarah

Sorry to hear about your Dads diagnosis.

Don't beat yourself up too much about this.

It's your Dads choice to not have anymore treatment. You can only try but in the end he will do what he wants and handle it his way.

Maybe MacMillan can help you.

I really feel for you, as a cancer patient, all I wanted was to give it my all and get well again. I've fought it twice with the help of my wonderful team of Drs, consultants, nurses and most importantly my amazing family.

I hope you get the support you need for both your Dad and for you. Life is so precious, make the most of yours, look after you, be happy. You can't make your Dad do what he doesn't want to but you are in control of your life.

x

Thankyou I feel I can't talk to

anyone apart from you guys as you know what I'm going through  I'm going to spend as much time with him as I can when he gets back from his Christian retreat , I know you guys will always be here if I need to talk thanks sarah 

Hello Sarah, like you my Dad was my world which stopped turning the day he died 18months ago. I was in shock for a long time and didn't know how to go on without him, even now I find many days are a struggle. I have the support of a wonderful husband who encouraged me to go to the doctors which I did and have a course of medication available for the days I really struggle. I also still speak to the Samaritans and find comfort in speaking with them. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Dad, please seek help if you need to and live the life your Dad would want you to. x

Always here if you need to chat.

All you can do is spend time with your Dad and just be there to support him and enjoy your time together.

Look after yourself too, make time for you. x

Thankyou so much and im

here if you ever need to talk x

Thankyou so much x

Thank you Sarah, I will check in again soon as this is the first post I have ever done but your story is one so very much like mine was, I could see my beloved Dad deteriorating before me and yet I felt so helpless. You will survive this I promise you,  just remember he knows you love him and that will carry you through the days to come. Always speak with someone don't hide away like I did. Night for now x

It's hard every minute of everyday trying not to cry when I see a picture of my dad and trying to sleep when all I can think about is my dad I need to be strong and chatting on here with lovely people like yourselves thankyou so much , chat soon