Welcome to Cancer Chat Nick although I'm really sorry for the reason you join us.

We have some information on our website about what signs to look out for in the last few weeks and days which I hope will help you at this time but hopefully some of our members will share their experiences and advice with you soon as well.

Our cancer nurses are also available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Nick28. My Mum died in December to Ovarian Cancer. She took to her bed permanently about 2-3 weeks before passing. She was on 3 syringe drivers with a variety of meds. I would say, make the most of your time now. Talk about memories. Record your Mum's voice talking about her memories. Take photos of you with your Mum and other family members. You may feel you don't want photos of your Mum when she is so ill, but when you look back you may feel differently. Laugh and smile about things as much as you can. Let your Mum know how much you love her, and that you will all be OK. Make sure she sees all the people she wants to see. My Mum hung on until everything was ticked off her mental list. These will be very tough days but make the most of every moment and make sure you have plenty of support around you. Stay strong for your Mum xx

Hi Nick. My Mum's appetite became less and less. Due to the constipation and a blocked bowel she was advised to try a low fibre diet. Towards the end she was really just eating things like jelly, custard, angel delight. Anything she could manage, and very tiny amounts. We had the palliative care nurses come once a day to do her meds (she had 3 syringe drivers and a catheter within the last week). Within last 2 weeks we had Hospice at Home who came once a day initially for personal care and then twice a day probably in last week. This took some of the burden off us. Get all the help you can. My Mum was in a hospital bed for the last few weeks, and was bed bound the last two weeks. I didn't really notice much of a smell until near the very end but I am sure everyone is different. Never be afraid to ask for help. We would do anything to not see our loved ones go through this. All you can do is do your best for her and help make her as comfortable as possible. And spend time making memories x

Thank you for all your advice. We are just waiting on palliative care to see her. Hopefully they can help deal with the pain. I will seek help its was just so hard knowing where to turn as she just gone down hill so fast. She managed so well at first so it hard to watch her go like this. Again thank you for all your help and advice x