My dad is dying

My dad was diagnosed with brain cancer and cancer in the spine and pelvis about 2 months ago and has since been told he has lung and bone cancer. There is no treatment available and we were told he has 2 months to live about a month ago. 

Since then he has had seizures and can't get his words out or understand most things. I cry everyday and I can't cope seeing my mum tired from looking after him. My dad was a running a business and completely normal in April and I can't get my head round how this has just happened so quickly. He is only 63. 

Is anyone else going through this? I can't deal with this whole watching him suffer and it is almost like we are waiting for the enevitable...

  • Hi Roseh2104,

    Yes I'm kinda going through the same thing. My grandad tho. He was fit and healthy had what looked like a absess/ulcer turns out it was skin cancer after a biopsy CT scan Waited 2.5 weeks to get a pre-OP anyway all blood results ect came back abnormal so he had to stay in Christie's. Having blood transfusions another CT scan showed he now has it in spine/lungs/kidneys/liver hes now palliative care and has been moved into a hospice!! I feel your pain. Like its punishment waiting for it to happen it's awful! 

  • I'm so sorry to hear that :( 

    Is he still walking and eating? My dad can just about walk to the toilet and back and is still eating. But he doesn't hardly tall and if he does it doesn't make sense.  He also does strange things which is to do with the brain tumor I think. I just worried because I'm scared he just will be gone one day without warning. I can't tell how long he will be around for....

  • Hi Roseh

    I'm sorry for what you are dealing with. I lost my Dad at the start of the year so rapidly like 6 weeks. One minute he was a strong healthy man or so I thought and the next diagnosed with terminal cancer..he disaperred so quickly. It's a horrendous and dramatic time for you to be watching him helplessly. My Dad was 63 also and it was beyond herrondous watching him fade. Just want to let you know you are not alone although you feel it. I miss my Dad so very much but I'm carrying on with life somehow. Life felt very sereal for quite a few months. Sending strength your way. Rosie xx

     

  • So sorry for what you are going through your defo not alone. sending lots of hugs.. 

    No Hes not walking now as the tumor has fractured his spine. Hes not eating much a yoghurt a day or icecream. It's like I'm watching him fade away day by day!! Heartbreaking!! Xx

  • Hi Rosie

    I'm so sorry this has happened. I don't know what I will do when dad isn't here anymore. Just keep thinking about how he will never see me get married or have children (things he really wanted for me). 

    I think he is getting worse, struggling to swallow food now and his tablets. I just hate this so much x

  • It's awful cancer just strips those things away. It feels very unfair. All of those important things and day to days things too. I'm here if you ever want to message, the only thing that seemed to help me in my deepest darkest days was support from others mainly here who could relate to my pain and that's why I still pop on here from time to time. Do you have time off work at the moment? Sending love xxx