My poppa (granda) is dying

My poppa just got told he is terminal, he's the last grandparent I have left and I'm upset but I don't really understand what that means, it's through his whole body and I don't know how long he has left I'm just trying to be strong for everyone else, he just doesn't want treatment and that's okay with me but everyone else wants him to but he's beat prostate cancer and now he has bladder cancer that has gotten everywhere else. I just want to know how to help him and everyone else, but what I really need help with is the fact I don't really feel sad, even tho I love him to bits. Help??? 

  • Hi there ..

    What an amazing granddaughter you are .. bet he's so so proud of you ... 

    Well I can only give you my opinion as a nanny with cancer .. and that's the best thing you can do is support him in whatever way he chooses to go ... I know some families want loved ones to fight it no mater what ... but sometimes quality over quantity is best .. there's a time to fight and a time to "let it be" and make the most of every day he has .. he can still make lots of memories...

    I believe we should have all the facts .. and listen to others .. then make our own decision ... whichever way that will be ..  I can understand your family wanting him to fight no mater what .. but if he really doesn't want it .. to make a few extra months maybe ... but feel really ill from chemo ...

    I know I'd be the same as your granddad... if I got secondaries... I'd do what I'm doing now .. trying to make every day count ... sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie  

  • Thanks for the kind advice, I was reading it and thinking that it's exactly the kind of advice my nanny would have given me if she were still alive, so thank you so much