End of life consciousness

Hi, my grandma has secondary brain cancer and is at a stage where she has lost the ability to speak. However, this morning when they put the phone to her ear so that I could speak to her, when I said " hi grandma, I love you", she started making sounds. She can't move her tongue but she seems to hear.

I'd like to know if she's still able to understand me at this stage.( I spoke to her last week and she sounded fine. I can't believe how quickly this is happening).

My grandma lives in another country and I understand this is the end of life process, but if she is still conscious and understands me, she might want/ like to see me there. I'd like to make an informed (as possible) decision before getting on a plane.

 

  • Hi there ...

    Oh my , I'm so so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... but just wanted to say, hearing is the last thing to go ... I'm sure that call will mean the world to her ... as a nanny with cancer, I know that bond between a granddaughter and nan, is huge ... and I know I'd miss my little granddaughter more then anything ... she is my world .. she's the little girl in pic ...

    So trust your nan knows you love her .. she heard you .. and if the last words I hear would be my granddaughter saying she loved me, I'd think of nothing I'd like more ... and remember, you won't loose her, she'll stay tucked up in your heart, and you can keep her there on your journey through life ... you are part of her, and her you ... 

    Sending you a vertual hug.... chrissie

  • Hi Chrissie,

    Thank you for your support and beautiful words ️.

    You're right, we will always be part of each other and all my grandparents will forever be within my most joyful memories. This is also why my grandad ( the last one left) has suggested that I don't travel to see her in the state she is now - so that I can always preserve the wonderful memories I have of her, he says. 

    I'm sure your granddaughter loves you immensely too :) May you make a lot more happy memories together ️

    Hugs*