My brave Dad

I am beyond devastated to even be typing this, it's the most heartbreaking thing seeing your loved ones dying from such an awful disease.

In August 2017 my Dad was diagnosed with oesophagel cancer after a couple of months of struggling to swallow and food getting stuck. He endured chemo for a few months to which the pick line caused him to have sepsis, he was admitted to hospital until the infection had cleared. He then underwent a massive operation in January 2018 which consisted of removing 2 thirds of his oesophagus and 1 third of his stomach. Although in a lot of pain dad was very positive and we had hope that he'd be coming out the other side. 

April 2018 dad had a routine eye test, they found something suspicious so he was referred to ophthalmology, another devastating blow and we found out he had a tumour behind his eye. Dad was offered radiotherapy, it shrunk the Tumour and again as a family we had hope that Dad would come out the other side. 

January 2019, a few days after his 60th birthday dad was rushed to hospital with what they believed was pneumonia, 3 litres of fluid was drained and he was sent home after 5 days. The oncologist called following a CT scan and we were given the worst news, the cancer had spread to his lung and liver. By this time Dad has lost so much weight, struggling to eat and drink and having trouble breathing. 

He was rushed back to hospital after vomiting up black blood to which he is still there now. Eating and drinking a lot less because he's too scared, struggling to talk due to his breathing and sleeping a lot. He's also in a lot of pain with his back and shoulder, oxycodone and paracetamol is not helping at all.

As a family we are all absolutely devastated. I am 26 weeks pregnant expecting a baby boy on 22nd May and I hope and pray to God my Dad gets to meet him. I've always idolised my Dad and we've always been so close I'm so so scared of losing him but also don't want him to be suffering. 

I just wanted to write this post to show what a true warrior my Dad is. He's been through so much in such a short space of time and hes still fighting. 

 

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  • Hello dear, I'm so sorry for what you are going through,

    I don't know what it feels like to be afraid of losing a parent but I surely know what it feels like to watch someone you love suffering. My boyfriend has stage 4 colon cancer that spread to his liver and lungs too... So he has been suffering a lot lately. At the moment he has similar symptoms to your dad, which I have to admit is very scary.

    It's incredible what your Dad has been through, I understand that you have been very strong. It's a terrible pain going through all this. My boyfriend's family is also super depressed, we all don't know what to do... and even if we get some sort of joy in our lives, it all quickly fades away as our biggest problem is still there. 

    There's not much I can say, unfourtunately we don't have much control over these situations, but I hope that you hang in there and that you're dad feels better <3

    Take care**

  • Thanks for your message, I am so sorry to hear that your boyfriend is going through similar symptoms to that of my Dad, it really is the worst thing in the world and so so scary. 

    I wish you all the very best and hope that your boyfriend can be made comfortable and pain free. 

    My dad has been given days, there is no more that can be done for him, I just want him to be comfortable and at peace now, hes suffered enough. 

    Take care xxx 

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  • Thanks for your message, I am so sorry to hear that your boyfriend is going through similar symptoms to that of my Dad, it really is the worst thing in the world and so so scary. 

    I wish you all the very best and hope that your boyfriend can be made comfortable and pain free. 

    My dad has been given days, there is no more that can be done for him, I just want him to be comfortable and at peace now, hes suffered enough. 

    Take care xxx 

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