Hi Worried 

So sorry you find yourself here. 

My Mum was also diagnosed with advanced cancer (both lungs, a large spot on her liver and very likely elsewhere) and I completely understand what you’re going through right now. It is truly heartbreaking. When I look back, those initial days after diagnosis were a blur...I was all over the place, shocked, panicking, disbelief and terrified. 

These forums are a great place to come to when you want to be around people in the know about cancer. Sadly, many of us here have been through the same as you (or are actively going through it now) and so you might find it helpful to pop by when you feel the need. 

I see your Mum has another appointment on Wednesday. My, I do hope you will receive more positive news about your Mum’s treatment plan. 

When discussing treatment with her oncologist, my Mum’s approach was that she didn’t want to know timescales or anything like that....just what could be done.  Her consultant respected that and tailored his approach with that in mind. My Mum didn’t end up receiving treatment in the end but she was all set up for it mentally and feeling good about having a plan in place. 

Be great to hear how you get on, onWednesday. 

Take care

Star xx 

I can feel every word written. I'm going through the same storm since May. Don't be so sure that you're going to lose her. Doctors may not be God, believe this for once in your life, when you really need to hope.

It may seem crazy for you to hear something like this, but have you done your own research for a cure for mamma? 

Take care of your self too (i know it's hard).

Xoxo 

Sofi.

Hi,

I'm young and my mum has a terminal diagnosis, i completely understand how you feel and that you want her to be around as long as possible. 

My mum is in her final few months now and always tells me "We're here for a good time, not a long time", i have these words written across my wall.

At a time when i truly have no words for you i advise you to use these words to help fuel her life with hapiness regardless of the prognosis she recieves- remind her you love her every day, tell her how brave and strong she is and suggest things to do like a bucket list that gives her the oppurtunity to make memories with you and forget about the cancer for even just a little bit of time!

Finally if your mum is not eating, please encourage her to atleast drink little and often, cancer patients can easily end up in hospital and get very ill from dehydration and we wouldnt want this for your mum.

Sending all my love at a very difficult time,

D Xx 

Hi all

My mum's is now on her 2nd wk of chemotherapy tablets now.She's just finished a week of radiotherapy and feeling very tired.she is having her high days and gets her low days.it still feels like a dream that this is happening to us all and I'm still hoping and praying this treatment helps her be comfortable.if I could have one wish it would be what everyone would wish for,for their loved ones to be free of this horrid disease.here's hoping to the future it may happen.for now i want to spend as much precious time I can with my mum and make lasting memories xx