Hi,
So 6 weeks ago my mum was fine and she hurt her back in what she described as a strain when she got out of the shower, she had copd but it was well under control. A few weeks laid up and prescribed pain killers and ibruprofen gel. After no improvement and the pain killers not touching the pain we requested a Dr to come and see her. Within 3 days my mum went from being treated for pneumonia to being diagnosed with terminal lung cancer that had spread to the bones (the back pain), pancreas, adrenal glands, liver, kidneys etc and was given months. She deteriorated over the next 2 days when trying to balance the pain medication and the drowsiness and the length of time lefr was then decreased to days. Mum declined hospice care and requested to come home. Things progressed quickly. I had no idea of the support available. All amazing. She was home for 7 days cared for by me and my fiance with support from the family and carers etc and she took her last breaths last night. I had no idea how hard caring, watching her go through that and being taken to the chapel of rest today was going to be.
It was all so sudden. She deteriorated so quickly. In the last days when she just slept it felt as though we had already lost her although she was physically still present. We are a very lucky family in that there was so much love and that we got to be with her and at the time she left. I try to think if the positives.
I' m struggling as it doesn't feel real. A blur.
