Hi there wellcome ime so sorry your in this dredfull position but you know human beings are wonderfull wonderfull we seem to find strength from somewhere to cope with anything .maybe try and simplify your life anything thats not realy important dont do it try and enlist your kids to help that will help them to help you and make them feel better because if we leave kids out it makes them feel unimportant .if you ring mc millan helpline they can give you advice when my partner was diagnosed i was so worried not being able to talk i drove up the road and rang the samaritans and spoke to them for half an hour it realy helped because i couldnt fold in front of liz i was her rock and gave her support this of course is what i did and normaly nothing fazes me but this did we did cuddle a lot and talked .so i hope you find the strengh to carry on give your love and attension to your husband anything else can wait come and chat to us if you get stressed you will find many people who understand how you feel and can chat  best wishs paul ps you can get fortisip shakes but you can also get fortijuice much thiner and easier to swallow if you feel like crying then cry you need to get tension out and its the best way .

Thank you for your reply and kind words

further discussion with the Dr’s turns out my Husband’s secondary bile duct cancer is in the pertitonum. Next course of action is Platinum chemotherapy- which I am hearing is pretty full on. He’s very weak and frail but mentally strong and ready for the next step. I am trying to help him gain some weight before the chemotherapy - thank you Paulus - he’s drinking the fortijuice. 

I will certainly look into the Samaritans & MacMillian for support. 

I am trying to be strong but today was a cry day, hopefully tomorrow will be better - taking it day by day & enjoying every minute & cuddle with him xx

Kind Regards x 

Hi it never lets up this rotton disease  . I used to tear my hair out trying to get liz to drink she knew i was doing it for her sounds like your husbands a fighter all credit to you for being so caring carrers realy struggle at times and we tend to neglect ourselves  hope your eating its so important for you as your under so much strain you know the gps can help you to if your stuggeling and a quick chat to samaritans can realy help if you hit a low point.my heart goes out to anyone going through this best wishs to you and your husband . Paul