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Struggling to hold on

Frainie71
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Dad is end stage pancreatic cancer, he had a driver fitted last Thursday as his body can’t take any more oral medication.

We spent the weekend walking down memory lane laughing and crying about everything, he was totally lucid and pain free.

Yesterday he changed and became confused and agitated and the doctor has upped his dosage or medication.

i have said everything I wanted to say and he is peaceful.

My question is how long does anyone think I have left with him, the doctors amazed he’s lasted until now and told Dad to stop fighting the medication he’s such a strong willed man

hes had no food for a week and tonight he can’t go to the toilet, I’m assuming his organs have started to *** down one by one, I and my step mum are ready for him to say goodbye and for his suffering to end.

Has anyone else been through something similar ?

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    Hello xx 

    i haven’t been through anything similar (my mum passed from cancer suddenly) but just wanted to say that I’m so sorry you are going through this. Also...although heartbreaking, how precious was that weekend you had together....and the fact that you and your dad feel at peace having said everything you want to. I hope that this will comfort you at this at this difficult time xx 

     

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    Hello

    My Mum was diagnosed with Stage 4 Pancreatic cancer on 2nd Jan 2018 and died 31st Jan 2018.  It was very quick and heart breaking to watch Mum fade away.  Mum was put on syringe driver on 18th Jan and we had hospital bed in the living room. Mum suffered badly from terminal agitation and they were able to put anti-anxiety medication in the syringe driver.  Mum lost her mobilty on 21st Jan and stopped eating around the same time. Mum was still talking pretty much till the end. Her last words were 29th Jan.  Me and my sister tried to make Mum as comfortable as possible and we held her hand to the end.  We miss here so much x

     

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    thank you for your reply, Dad passed away Saturday night with me and my step mum with him, he was peaceful and in no pain.

    its very raw but he’s at peace now, he’s left a huge void in our lives and I am taking each day at a time.

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    Take care and look after yourself. This forum has helped me since we lost Mum. 

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