Mum is dying

So mum is dying - diagnosed last year with The terminator - ovarian cancer we watched whilst she battled the chemotherapy , the madness that cane with steroids , the lows , the no eating, the stillness and then we had 3 wonderful months of healthy mum.  Just getting back to normal , hair growing back , energy levels up and then this ... it’s back have no idea what to do with this information it’s neber going away - she will receive more chemo now to manage the cancer but she’s not going to be here for long.  I can’t bear to be without her and can’t believe I won’t have my mum anymore .  I don’t think I can be here without her 

  • I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Hopefully the treatment will work again and she will get better. Try to stay positive and enjoy your time with her, take lots of photos and create memories. Stay strong 

  • Hello Brombonnie and welcome to the forum.  So sorry to hear of your mum's terminal diagnosis.  It is entirely normal to be frightened at the thought of losing the person who gave birth to you and who has loved you unconditionally since the moment you were conceived.  Please believe that although you may lose your mum's physical presence you will still have her in your heart, you will not forget the essence of all things that made your mum.  I still talk to my mum although she has been dead for some years now.  I have things that belonged to her and they are an important link for me.  I have my parents wedding photo and other things belonging to my parents.  I can still remember the sound of their voices and indeed talk to them in my mind (or out loud sometimes) even though it is many years since I lost them.  Life is very painful sometimes and I suppose we have to face that one day our own children will grieve for us.  Your mum will have grieved for her own parents (I hope she is not so young that her parents are still alive) but kept going for the next generation.  I am sure you will do all  you can to make the remaining time with your mum as good a time as is possible in the circumstances and hope you will come back and talk here if you feel it will help you along this difficult road.  Annie

  • Thank you so much for taking the time to write a reply I feel u can’t break down at home in front f the kids and my partner gets upset as he lost his mum to cancer .   I try to focus on all the amazing memories I have and the fact she is still here I just don’t want to see her suffer or to be on pain and I’m not sure I’m strong  enough to watch her die.  It helps reading other people’s stories on this site that I found tonight so thank you xxx 

  • Thank you for your lovely message and the hope that I won’t be alone when she is gone ,  that I’ll still have her with me in all that I do.  I am seeing her as much as I can and trying to make every moment one that she can enjoy and cherish but it’s so hard keeping it together .  Thank you for making me feel like I’m not alone xx