Hi there ...

How sad these things come up at times like these ... what does your brother want .. did you fall out .. 

But no matter what it's a shame things and feelings can't be put to one side ..

I hope it all gets sorted out .. life sucks sometimes ... but keep him in your hearts no matter what ..

Chrissie  : (( x

Hello

I am sorry to read of your situation. Is your brother still able to communicate and let you know who he wishes to see.

I cared for my husband at  home during his 6 month battle with lung cancer. His twin sister never came to see him, she only lived 3 miles away but I used to ring her and keep her informed of his detioration. Just a few days before he died he said to me that he didn't want his sister at his funeral because he was so hurt that she never visited him.

On the day my husband died my brother and his wife were here as well as my son's and their partners and selfish as it sounds, I really would have liked some time on my own with him but didn't feel able to say it. He had an awful death which was very distressing to watch and I know that they just wanted to support me.

I am not sure about any rights you have but I can see it from both sides. It is an awful time and I hope that you can resolve it in a way that  is favourable to all. Warm wishes to you all. Lynne.

Dear SueJ

Have you thought of speaking to the PALS Team or nurses caring for your brother, to have a word?

They will have a list of people that can or cannot visit and it is  your brother's decision.

I'm pretty certain your situation isn't unusual. Maybe you can visit at separate times.

Families huh!

So sorry to read this.    Please would you mind  telling us exactly what has caused this issue?  Have you fallen out with your brother?  Or his wife?  What is the reason for this trouble and how long has it been happening?  Sorry to be some inquisitive but time is of the essence now and it may be that someone can suggest something if we have the full information.  I do hope you wil let us try to help if we can.  Annie