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My sister has terminal liver and bowel cancer

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I am struggling so much to deal with the fact that my sister is dying of cancer. She was diagnosed with liver cancer a few weeks ago and after tests discovered that it had originated in her bowel. On her 33rd birthday they told her there was nothing they could do about the bowel cancer and then last week they told her that the liver cancer had also gone too far. They have offered chemo to extend her life by about 3 or 4 months if it works. I am a year older than her and she has tried for years to have children and she is hoping to have enough time to get married, she and her partner put it off as they didn't have enough money and now we are all trying to figure it out so that we can get it done quickly and make it the best day of her life. I feel guilty that it is her and not me I don't know if that is normal but I can't help it. 

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    Sweetie . 

    I can totally relate to your feelings. My sister died of Bowel cancer . And at the time i alsonhad breast camcer. I felt so guilty that she died and I am still here. She is your lovely sister     who if like me, you are so close to  you would.do anything to take any pain and harm away from. 

    It is so hard seeing those we love going through such horrible things. 

    The grief will be so painful. And I remember wanting to have a sign hovering above my head saying. I am hurting so.much .. my sister and best friend has died. Sometimes it was so hard to breath and get through it. You will never ger.over the grief because we grieve because we have loved and the love never stops. 

    But we adjust and cope. And in the darkest times I remember my husband would say... Wendy would hate that you are so sad. She wouldn't want you to be so down. 

    And in a way that did make a difference. .. because it is true. She didn't live into old age.... only 42 when she passed away. Prime of her beautiful life. We must go on for their sakes..... as bloody hard as that is. 

    Love and kind thoughts  to you . And know that she is loved as are you xx

    BECKS 

     

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    Sweetie . 

    I can totally relate to your feelings. My sister died of Bowel cancer . And at the time i alsonhad breast camcer. I felt so guilty that she died and I am still here. She is your lovely sister     who if like me, you are so close to  you would.do anything to take any pain and harm away from. 

    It is so hard seeing those we love going through such horrible things. 

    The grief will be so painful. And I remember wanting to have a sign hovering above my head saying. I am hurting so.much .. my sister and best friend has died. Sometimes it was so hard to breath and get through it. You will never ger.over the grief because we grieve because we have loved and the love never stops. 

    But we adjust and cope. And in the darkest times I remember my husband would say... Wendy would hate that you are so sad. She wouldn't want you to be so down. 

    And in a way that did make a difference. .. because it is true. She didn't live into old age.... only 42 when she passed away. Prime of her beautiful life. We must go on for their sakes..... as bloody hard as that is. 

    Love and kind thoughts  to you . And know that she is loved as are you xx

    BECKS 

     

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