Hello Lila it is so so hard to not be able to make the pains go away, are you accompanying your husband to India? Has he been offered palliative care here in UK? My husband is also terminal with lung cancer and only 61. He has had 3 rounds of chemotherapy since May of this year & yesterday we learned the primary tumour has grown slightly, so no more of the same treatment will help him.

On Monday it will be be a new treatment programme of targeted oral medication that is been on trials for breast cancer as it has proven to be helpful.to shrink other cancers. He was reading the information recommendations for starting the new drugs & will have to cease the use of any herbal remedies as they can clash with other medication. Pain management is the key to getting through difficult times and is so hard to see our loved ones suffering & I know how you must be feeling it is just awful. My husband was so, so nauseous straight after each chemotherapy & always around 10-12 days to feel less sick, even with tons of anti sickness drugs & was even admitted to hospital with dehydration in July as he wasn't getting sufficient fluids, even through the little food he was able to eat.  

I do hope that your husband gets good care &his wishes to end his days in India are as pain free as they can be, for your sake as well, I will be thinking of you Lila, it is so hard, sending you a hug x