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My dad was told he had lung cancer in April and there was nothing they could do. Five months on he is still with us, they have told me he has brain mets and one has become a large tumour, he also has heart failure. My emotions are all over the place. He is in a hospice. One day I visit and he is asleep the whole day but another day I go and he is awake and quite jolly. He eats and drinks. I have gone today and they have said his breathing is laboured, but he seems the same to me, however the base of his finger nails have started to go a grey/blue. I get so confused with how up and down he is. Is this normal? Any advice would be so appreciated. 

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    Hi Bunnie

    i never thought I would be here on a Tuesday night writing to a stranger about cancer, probably all of us on here feel the same right but it's the only comfort me get during the worst time of or life finding out that our parent has cancer ans is dying.

    i found out last month that my dad has lung and pancreatic cancer. Just last week found out he has only a few weeks left.

    i feel like my world is ended.

    my dad prefers to die at home not in a hospice. We are already discussing his funeral and I haven't even cried until this evening as it's only sinking in now.

    i know it's the hardest but please try ans stay strong and try to spend as much time as u can. 

    My dad was taking last week and now he can't even eat and is bed bound. Time is so precious 

    Life is so cruel sometimes but we have to stay strong 

    Thinking of u and your dad. WIsh u all the best. 

     Bella xx 

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    Hi Bunnie

    i never thought I would be here on a Tuesday night writing to a stranger about cancer, probably all of us on here feel the same right but it's the only comfort me get during the worst time of or life finding out that our parent has cancer ans is dying.

    i found out last month that my dad has lung and pancreatic cancer. Just last week found out he has only a few weeks left.

    i feel like my world is ended.

    my dad prefers to die at home not in a hospice. We are already discussing his funeral and I haven't even cried until this evening as it's only sinking in now.

    i know it's the hardest but please try ans stay strong and try to spend as much time as u can. 

    My dad was taking last week and now he can't even eat and is bed bound. Time is so precious 

    Life is so cruel sometimes but we have to stay strong 

    Thinking of u and your dad. WIsh u all the best. 

     Bella xx 

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