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Mam has secondaries refused chemo

Sharonpink1967
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Hi

my Mam had bowel cancer and was operated on last year and recovered well.

she has recently been diagnosed with (what she says is chest secondaries) I am

assuming it's in her lungs.This time around she has declined 3 weekly intense chemo and decided to have palliative care.

She hasn't allowed any family members to appts this time.

i am frustrated and scared as I dint now the best way to support her and how long we have left together.

she is 79 this year and a very determined amazing but stubborn woman who feels the need to protect me!

I want to give her the best quality of life she has left but have no idea what to expect next,

can anyone advise please? 

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat, Sharonpink1967, although I’m sorry for the reason that brought you here.

    Looking after loved ones who are going through cancer is something that many of our members can relate to so I hope some of them will soon be along shortly to share their experiences with you and give some advice.

    In the meantime, our nurses are available on this phone number 0808 800 4040, Monday through Friday from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. if you think speaking to someone medically trained might help.

    Best wishes,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Offline in reply to Moderator Renata

    Hi

    thank you for that.Is my post on a forum as it's my first time on here and was hoping someone might respond??

    thanks again

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    Hi 

     

    My mum is the same. She is trying to protect me I think. She is terminally ill. Is so hard as you have lots of pieces of the jigsaw but not all the answers. I dont have any answers for you either as how to best feal with this. I try my best to put my agenda to the nack of my mind and focus on mum. Sorry this isnt much help. I feel your frustarations x

  • Offline in reply to MISSX

    Hi 

    thank you for posting and I am sorry to hear your sad news also. I am finding myself having bad dreams every night and they are always about her death/funeral.We are very close as I am the baby if the family at 50! I have 3 older brothers who haven't had the same relationship I have shared with her. I hope we can support each other through this sad time n thanks sgain

    sharon

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