Hi all, I'm so pleased to find other people who actually want to own their cancers and accept the sadly unnecessary outcome.

My story in brief. Lung cancer found in May, 36 sessions of radiotherapy over 12 days. CT scan in late August doctor said looking really positive. MRI scan booked for September, cancer spread to liver and ribs. Chemotherapy started immediately.

January, liver not accepted chemo and increased in size by 25%. Chemo stopped. Previous scan showed three tumours now in brain.

That's it all over no more treatment.  I feel fine, explained everything truthfully to our adult kids. They accepted but felt badly for a while but gave me lots of support.

Now we can openly and easily discuss the rest of my life. Funeral being arranged, bank and insurances all informed, carers allowance being paid, visits to nearby hospices ( should I need to give my wife a break) visited.

I am a pragmatic person, some say no sense no feelings but that's the way it is. I don't expect divine intervention or to find a tablet on the floor marked miracle cure.

This is my cancer. It would have been better had it not arrived but it's here to stay.

Meanwhile we do and go where we like, eat and drink normally too.

The only thing I have been forced to do is give up my driving licence due to potential blackouts.

Good luck to those who have the strength of attitude to accept their illness and deal with it accordingly.

God bless.

Hello JustJ, my little wife went right down when she was given the horrible news, I lost my humour and my sex drive the day she went to the doc's, I lost her after only 19 months I was hoping the hope that the diagnosis was wrong, then Ann's boss wanted her to agree to them having a copy of her health details, she ticked the biox asking for a copy herself, I suggested at the time for her not to do so, five weeks lateer a letter arrived she read id threw it on the table and just melted ino the chair, I picked it up reading and just cried, it was a condeming letter saying she had between 6 -9 months of life expectancy..... she lasted 3,5 months from then,,,,,,,,,I still love her, I cry most night's she was my friend, my confidant, my lover, my baby, my world, I never loved anyone more than her, I am crying right not typing this to you, I wish you alll the love in the world I don't care if you are male or female, love, love, love, John Lennon.......LOVE.

Hi Newboy,

Good to hear that you feel fine. Long may that continue :-)

Good luck to you too!

Dave

Hi Geordie,

Love and peace from another JL fan.

Best wishes

Dave 

Hi I don't have cancer but lost my mum on new years day to it she battled on for 17 years with ovarian cancer having chemo after chemo she was known as the walking miracle untill monday 18th when we were told her chemo wasnt working anymore and the cancer had spread to her liver,kidneys,bowel and her abdomen was just a complete mass and she had only 2 weeks to live my mum never kept anything from me and dad we were there through every scan and treatment, when we were told she was dying I didn't want to talk about it I thought if I dont then it wont happen but I realised things had to be sorted banks funeral... I guess what i'm saying is don't keep anything back from your family I'm glad now that my mum told me eveything I don't have any unanswered questions or what if's I know exactly why they did what they did and why and it's that what helps a little because the not knowing would destroy me