My question is how do I start to talk about the fact that my brother who is only 37 years old and he is dying from cancer and I think I'm coping but people say I'm not and I need to talk to someone but who??
Hi there Jack, welcome to the forum. I'm not sure if you have cancer, or if you are afraid you will get it. I'll assume you already have it and that is why you likely joined the forum. There are many of us on here who are going to die with cancer and it is no walk in the park for sure. I think we all have a yellow streak down our backs when it comes to dying, especially a death by cancer. The interesting thing about this is that I believe the process of a slow death, mostly suffering from pain and discomfort, not to mention the emotional side of knowing we'll be just waiting to die, is likely the worst of it. For me, death in and of itself, does not scare me, but the journey of getting from here to there is what upsets me the most. I don't do suffereing well and I hate the idea of being dependent on others to take care of my needs. I am a very independent person, always have been, and was always the care giver. I'm at an age where most people are considered lucky to have lived this long, so dying at my age would almost be the natural thing to do, but dying with cancer would not be my choice. Given a choice, I would like to just fade out of this life quickly and quietly with no fuss. However, we don't have that choice.
Having said all of this though, it pains me when I see people with this terrible disease who are still young and haven't lived life to the fullest. That is so unfair. I hope so much that a cure for cancer is soon found so that kids and young people don't die with it, or even don't get it in the first place. Also, for older people like myself, can just die a peaceful death when our time is up, but not suffer through this cancer thing.
I'm not sure what your situation is in all of this, but if you are looking for people to understand the challenges that cancer brings, not only to people diagnosed with it, but their loved ones who support them, you have come to the right place in this forum. People on here have experienced cancer as patients with it, or caregivers, loved ones, who are touched by it. Forum members understand what it feels like to face the challenges of cancer every day. You will find people on here to be very caring and supportive, so stay involved and post any concerns or questions that you have. There is always someone ready to respond.
