My dad and his last few weeks. Xx

Hi.   My dad has had prostrate cancer for about 2 years.  It is advanced and has spread to his bones.  Just 2 weeks ago we managed to spend a week in South Wales, a family favourite.  It was a different week as my dad was in bed a lot of the time and when he did get up with his limited mobility it was tricky.  However we kept the 35 year old or so tradition going.  We got back on Saturday but then on Monday my dad lost all feeling in his legs knew to compressions on his spine. He went into hospital only to be told no more radiotherapy can be done as it is too close to previous treatment.  After a lot of change in the house, due to his loss of mobility he has come home this evening.  We were so glad to have him back.  Once settled he told us the devasting news that the docs say he only has weeks.  It is so hard to comprehend.  He is weary but he is still with it.  He is still my dad.  I just don't know what to do.  I need to be strong.  I am practical.  I know things need doing.  My mum was so upset and although we are very close I'm finding it difficult to talk about it with her.   I cannot imagine life without him.  I am 40 but I am still his little girl.  I am totally. Confused. What do I tell the kids???  What do I say to him????  I want to tell him I'm scared and I'm going to miss him and I'm worried so much about my mum but I don't want to worry him.   I'm a teacher and and I go back to work next week but I don't know if I can and I want to!!!!!  Oh I'm sorry.  My head is so mixed up!!!!

  • Hi, I'm in a very similar position to you. My mother had chemo for breast cancer and we found out on Wednesday that its spread to her liver and bones and she has been given 'months'. I'm devastated and completely heartbroken. I am a 30 year old teacher and have the same issue about going back to work, except I work 100 miles away from home. I intend to ask if I can go part time and move back to s Wales for at least 4 days a week to be with her. It keeps coming in waves for me, I am currently lying in bed wide awake with tears streaming down my face. I don't know what to do or how to feel. My mam is my best friend and the thought of losing her is terrifying. Stay strong.
  • I am very sorry to hear of your situation. It is very disheartening to hear again and again how cancer robs lives and is devastating to loved ones. I lost my Dad this past July to pancreatic cancer. Try and be with your Dad and support him in his time of dire need. Show him you love him. Please try and say final goodbyes to your Dad. Its an extremely difficult situation. So many conflicting emotions. Lean on the Lord and ask him to help all concerned. There is really not to much else to do. 

     

  • Guys, I just wanted to let you know that, you are not alone. I have the same problem with my father, from a holiday in Rome,it turned into 10 days so far in the hospital. I have just been told that he has lung, liver, bone cancer.  I don't know what to do!! I can't eat, sleep, or talk. I'm num with pain, I sometime wish it was me in that bead and not him. Pls guys be strong.