I'm so sorry to hear your news and my heart goes out to you my husband passed away 6 weeks ago I only had a few weeks with him after he was diagnosed all I can say is spend as much time with him that you can give him lots of love and if you can talk to him about how you both feel even better I miss my husband so much and try to get through each day as best I can its so hard , but you have to try and be strong for your dad I hope you have other family members to help you through this I'm sending you a big hug and godbless maria xxx

Hello, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I'm going through the same thing and I can totally understand how you are feeling. My dad was told he had weeks in Jan and we celebrated his birthday this week. I decided early on that I had to make the time I had left with my dad the best I could make it and that's what I've focused on. We've talked lots about his family and the things he wants to do. Ive told him how much I love him although I know he knows. I've baked his favourite cake, cooked his favourite meal, danced around the kitchen and given him an old fashioned shave. I've just spent time with him. I've held his hand when he's upset and listened when he talks. I don't have the answers but I can only say to enjoy the short time you have and make it meaningful so that you can look back at this time you have without regrets. Do what feels right for you. I sobbed for days and struggled to go to work but then I made the decision that the time my dad has left is going to be great and he is going to know how much he is loved. Ask your dad if there's anything he would like to do or if there's anything you can do for him. The things my dad has wanted are simple and easy to do. I know I'm going to be a complete mess when he's gone but I will always know that this last short time I've been having with him is amazing. Feel free to contact me privately if you want to chat. I've also been keeping a short diary of the things we've been doing and the things he says. For my anxiety I've been using the headspace app to calm me down.

Liz x 

Hi im same, i spend as much time as i can, i still try and have a wee joke and laugh and take kids to c their papa but its getin harder every day.   I try not to let him c but my heart is breaking.   Its the worst thing and my heart goes out to you.  Stay strong xx 

Hi

my mum died 4 weeks ago from lung cancer - although incurable just a few days earlier her oncologist had said she was a long way from the terminal stages so it was a shock to everyone. She stayed with me for a week or so before as her house was being renovated and we just did normal things. These are now precious memories - just time together sat in the garden, cooking, reading, chatting and time with family and friends. She wasn't well enough to do anything 'special' but it didn't matter at all to us. Please just spend time together. I remember one night hearing mum awake and going into her room and we looked at the stars together and said how beautiful the world is. I also lost my father suddenly 12 years ago aged 51 to a heart attack. I believe that as hard as it is knowing that someone is going to die has made the grieving much easier for me. I can also say that although a cliche time heals and you will get through this.

i wish you, your dad and family peace as you go through the time to come. I hope I hsbe offered some comfort xx 

hi

I just want to say I am so sorry to hear about your dad. It also really upsets me to know that cancer is taking another victim.

my mum has advanced Kidney cancer, which means there isn't anything treatment can do because it spread to her lung. As a family we are still dealing with the unknown of when it will happen, as unfortunately they don't seem to think there is any point of a biopsy, as there is nothing they can do.

I was due to get married im 2018 but I think we are going to maybe do it next year, we will see.

as for anxiety attacks they suck, I have them regular at one stage i thought I was having a heart attack. I found a brilliant video on how to deal with anxiety on the NHS, type in moodzone for anxiety NHs. I always lay somewhere quiet and breath deeply in and out.

My mother died today from cancer :( it's an awful feeling and doesn't seem real just yet. Make memories and enjoy the time you have left with him  . Around a few months ago I began to get anxiety attacks I noticed daily exercise helps. 

I am extremely sorry about you mum, I am totally lost for words. Im not sure how long my mum has but I will be sure to make the mos of each time I see her.

sending you symphony at this sad time.

Lost my Dad on July 6th of this year. I just wanted to echo all the replies you received. There really isn't any good that comes out of this terrible situation, none for me anyway. It is a torturous and extremely agonizing time both for your loved one and yourself and family members. It is very emotionally draining and depressing to see your loved one dying right before your eyes. Stay strong, spend as much time with your dad as possible, make him as comfortable as possible. Do have private conversations and tell him how much you love him. Tell him and reassure him that God is with him and will not leave him. I am sorry.  

My condolences and sympathies for your mum's death today. Wishing you have comfort and find peace with the Lord. Take the positive out of the situation, no more suffering, at peace, in a better place hopefully such as heaven. Try and remember the good times. It will take a while to get all the bad memories out of the way, but it takes time. I just lost my Dad on July 6th.