My mom has terminal cancer

Hello, I'm 20 years old and I can't cope with my mom's terminal cancer. Two years ago my mother was diagnosed with stage IV pancreatic cancer with metastasis on the liver. The oncologist said she had only 3 months to live but her doctor said we will fight the cancer. She was trying to beat cancer and chemotherapy worked very well. Then the tumors started to growing up again. She continued with her chemotherapy but one month ago the doctor had cancel the therapy because she had jaundice and chemotherapy wouldn't work. Her doctor tried to stop jaundice but nothing. Five days ago my mom started getting worse and now she is on the bed sleeping all the time she can't move, talk and eat. I can't sleep at night I can breathe easy I had panic attacks and I have dreams all the time that my mom is getting better and everything will be alright and it makes me so sad. My parent divorced when I was 11 and I have only my stepfather and my sister which is 23 to support each other but I have anxiety all the time and I don't know what to do.

  • I'm so sorry to hear that, my father died a week ago from cancer, we only found out he had it a few weeks earlier so I'm still in shock, talk the the Macmillan nurses they are so understanding and they can get you help to deal with your feelings, it's so hard seeing someone you love going through that. Sending you love and hugs xx

  • I'm so sorry for your loss and thank you for the reply. I'm trying to think positive and I still have a hope for my mom.

  • Hi Helena1995

    I am so so sorry to hear about your mothers diagnosis and her recent deterioration. It must be so difficult for you right now, especially seeing the long journey you have been through so far.

    My Dad has end stage prostage cancer (I am 26 and my brother is 18) and he is currently in hospital in a similar situation. He has renal failure and is very weak, and unless he recovers he cant have further treatment for the cancer. I think the only way I am getting through this is talking to my mum, grandma and brother as often as I can, trying to distract myself with things I enjoy, and just taking each day at a time. I dont want my dad to die but even more, I really dont want to see him suffer like this.

    I hope that your mum is peaceful and comfortable and that you are doing okay. If you want to message me directly I am happy to chat anytime. Take care, Nikki

  • Hi Nikki thanks for the reply, I hope your father will be fine soon. I don't know why but I have a feeling that something good will happen and my mom will be fine soon. Yes we can chat anytime!