Hey! Thanks for your response. Oh god your poor dad and poor you, its so sh*t isnt it and no one gets in unless your going through it, I have friends and even family that really cannot get their head around how awfull things are for me my dad and sister, we are all trying to stay so strong but sometimes i just break down in private and cry so hard it hurts :(

How is your dad, is he staying positive? iv found my mum is so positive and has never said why me its not fair....i know if i was in her situation I would be like that.  What treatment is your dad having? if its in his spine can he move around much or have you had to get a wheel chair?  We got a chair a few weeks back when she was a bit better and it really helped, meant she could get out the house a bit more.  Now she cant leave the house though and literally sleeps ALL day.

Sending positive thoughts and wishes x x x x

Hi Charlotte,

Sorry to hear what you and family going through.  Unfortunately treatments can take a lot out of someone, which could be driving the increased sleep.

It's natural to be consumed with fearing the worst (as cancer would want you to be) but try not to be overtaken by such thoughts, don't give up on mum already.  I know I gave in to the idea of losing my dad practically when he was diagnosed, fearing he wouldn't make various special occasions, but he made them all.  Instead cherish every available moment with mum and family, celebrate your togetherness.  Be strong, be brave for each other.

Steve.

Hello love,

im 35 and I lost my mum 10 months ago. I don't have much time so please excuse the frankness of my post, I just wanted to share my experience of the end. She was eventually taken into hospital with some various symptoms that we couldn't control at home. I went and sat with her daily for about 8 hours a day for the two and a half weeks she was in before she passed away. She was only 60 so wasn't ancient. Over the course of the two weeks she slept more each day and was harder to rouse, her speech started to slur a little but she was still entirely 'there' - the morphine type drugs must cause it. That's basically it, she just slept more and more, sewer and deeper, and eventually went during it. Peaceful and gradual decline. In hospital they control the end for you, all the pain and worry should be just gently covered with medication. 

I was expecting it for months so didn't realise it's hit me as hard as it did when I received the phone call. 

Anyway, love to you, no matter how hard life gets for you, eventually I promise you will start to feel better. Eventually xxx