My dad was diagnosise with stomach cancer 9 years ago this week. He had radiotherapy, brachytherapy, a stent and simce his diagnosis he was also told it would be terminal. At Easter he entered a crisis period and was admitted to a hopsice for 5 days for assessment and eventulayy spet 4 weeks there. During this time we said goodbye 4 timees but he rallied and was eventually dicsharged to a nursing home with Fast track funding. Initially he was doing well but over the last twi weeks hehas deteriorated daily. He has a syringe driver so is not in pain ( a blessing). However, he cannot eat - and has no wish to do so, any fluids he takes he vomits back up fairly instantly, he is very emaciated and has become very frail, lethargic and is now unable to sustain interaction for longer than 10 minutes at a time...even during this time he is not very 'with it'. The home, who soecilaise in palliative nursing care and have been excellent, have told me to ensure that when I say goodbye each day to remember that it could be the last time. I have arranged for faimily who don't live locally to see him. I am frustrated as I have no indication of how long his body can sustain this for...its clear that he is very very poorly. I am grateful for the additional time I have had with him, but find the uncertainity and lack of knowledge about how imminenet things are very difficult to deal with. Being strong for other family, the daily requests for updates, visiting dad and looking after my own family with two young children is tough at this time. My work family have been amazing and supportive of my decision to still work as it allows me to distract myself. So my questions are, does anyone have any idea how long my dad will have - no-one will give me a timescale and how can i manage the demands of extended families request for updates without having to feel like I am relieving everything that is happening on a dilay basis which leaves me emotional and exhausted. Usually I can be quite good at being strong and managing it all - been dealing with it for 9 years, but rigt now it's becoming overwhelming.