Hi, can anyone help me please? My husband is near the end, but how near is unclear. They tell us it could be a month or more, but i am desperatly worried that i will be out somewhere, shops, hairdressers, picking my daugher up, the usual stuff and it will happen and i wont be with him. I would find it very hard to forgive myself if i wasnt by his side at that moment. He is not eating, drinking a little, very confused, weak and plucking/brushing at invisible lint on his pyjamas. He also gently waves his hands in the air as though he is trying to grasp something that isnt there. I know these are all end of life behaviours, but are the specialists right to estimate months? Or am i going to go out and come back and find him gone? I need to know. I wont leave his side if is very soon and i can make all the family aware if we know the end is imminent. I am embaressed to ask the specialists anymore because i feel as though it sounds like i am being impatient. I keep telling his sons that it will be some time and not to panic, but what if i am wrong and they are not with him, they will never forgive me either. My husbands behaviour today has worried me. Please can anybody give me some answers?
