Why so little time

Hi all

As you know by now, my hubby was diagnosed with lung cancer end of Sept. Now since then he has been in hospital(and still is), what I cannot come to term with is how quick it has ravaged his body, he has lost over 3 stone and is skin and bone, he isn't with us all the time, he is illucinating and so confused. He is now getting anxious when I'm going home and keeps saying I'm leaving him all the time.

I cannot come to terms with the fact that since diagnosis we have had NO time to do anything together, to create new memories. What I would give to have him home and just be able to have a cuddle, we can't do this on the ward.

He's been in hospital now for nearly 9 weeks

It's so you unfair, I've been fighting mine now for 2 years.

He doesn't look like he's going to be here for our daughters wedding in May.

I don't know what I'm going to do.

It's so unfair, the kids are going to lose both their parents. My son had to tell our oldest granddaughter today. Horrible.

Even though we've been together over 30 years, I thought we would have some time together, this hadn't been the case. He didn't tolerate the chemo at all was so with it he was hospitalised. Chemo stopped,but the downward spiral began and hadn't stopped.

I do now think perhaps he would have been better not having the chemo as it seems to of accelerated the cancer and we have had no time since his diagnosis.

 

 

 

 

 

  • Hi Tonim,

    I am very sad to read your post. You sound lower than I have ever heard you before and can fully understand the reason for it. Life can be so unfair at times. Just sending hugs and best wishes to you, Brian.

  • Hi Tonim,

    I'm sorry about both your situations and your families. I hope you don't mind me commenting.

    I first came on here at the end of September after mum passed away. For 2 months life was a daze. Wondering if mum should have not delayed for a few weeks, would she be here or made it worse?

    I feel for you all.

     

  • Hi Tonim

    My heart goes out to you both.  Sending virtual hugs as you face this difficult journey through cancer.  You are so right; life can be brutally unfair. Hugs  Jules x

  • Hi Toni ...... I too am so very sad to read your post and to see what you are going through.  Like many of your forum friends, I so wish there was something I could do or say that would help you and your family. Do you think that the McMillan nurses could possibly arrange for your husband to have care at home?

    Please know that, God-willing, I am here for you when you need a friend and that others are thinking of you all.  Much love x

  • Toni,

    Sorry to hear that things have gone downhill so quickly.
    This might have happened whatever choice was made about chemo. It often feels like we're all playing a sick game of Russian Roulette, doesn't it?  
     

    Best wishes
    Dave
     

  • You know Dave that's the second time you'e posted the same thought as me - was just about to make that analogy elsewhere

    Russian roulette is exactly it - there are a lot of empty chambers in that gun but if you stick around long enough the inevitable will happen and some people so unfairly seem to get unlucky so early.

     

    I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's decline Toni. It never ceases to amaze me how cancer can be so slow and yet so fast - my wife went for years at almost 100% fitness and then the last counple of weeks were like a blur.

     

    Not often I'm lost for words but with the two of you I really don't know what to say - I'm impressed you're finding the strength to come on here and share your sorrow with us - I hope it helps if just a little