This will probably be my last post.  My aunt sadly passed away about an hour ago with my mum and her children all with her.  Prayers are with anyone fighting this awful selfish thing

Sorry for y​our loss Anon but it was good that your aunt was surrounded by her family. You don't have to make this your last post you can come on here for support as a lot of people on here will know what you are going through. Also you may be able to help others going through the same thing. Best wishes

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Well I can honestly say today has without a doubt been the toughest day of my life to date.  My Aunt was the bravest strongest woman I have had the pleasure of knowing and she has been an absolute inspiration to me and many other people.  She fought and beat this horrible disease once but it was just to much this time.  God bless, she is now dancing with the angels

I feel your pain I really do, we found out 5-6 weeks ago my mums sister my gowjous auntie had lung cancer, to then be told after tests and scans it was in her chest, liver, lymph nodes and her brain an without treatment she had at the most two weeks, she took the treatment radiation on her brain which ended on weds, my mum has took two months off work unpaid to care for her. But she's just as up and down as my aunt I don't know what to say or do to make either of them hurt less as I'm hurting myself. I love them both with all my heart some days mum is ok others she's so angry and takes it out on me as I'm the eldest but I think we are all hurting were all heartbroken we need to do this together. My aunt beat breast cancer twice but now it has it's horrid hands all over her I really hope cancer gets cancer and dies. Love to you and your mum and her very brave twin sister xxxxx

Thank you.  It's so hard to know what if anything to do.  It is really difficult to support other people when you are hurting yourself.  I'm so sorry to hear of your family's news.  The only bit of advice I can give you is to simply be there and understand that deep down your mum loves you and appreciates your support.  She's angry at the cancer not you.  I'm thinking of you all.  We are going to miss my Aunt so so much, she really was loved by many many people.  But she is not suffering any more and that, as hard as it is, is a blessing

Hi, I have only just seen this post and wanted to send you my deepest condolences.  Please don't think that being strong means not crying in front of others or showing your emotions.  I am sure others don't expect that from you, but sharing your emotions and talking, and crying, together can be very helpful.

As someone has said, please stay on here,it may help you to talk and you may be able to help others.  With my best wishes to you and your family. xI

Thanks Pauline.  It still doesn't seem real.  It's all happened so quick.  Three weeks ago she was dancing her heart out at my cousins 50th.  Mums not taking it too well 

It sounds a terrible thing to say, but it would have been worse for you all, especially your aunt, if she had spent a long time suffering. 

When someone leaves us we never really get over it, we learn to live with the fact they are no longer there. When my mother died, 20 years ago, I just lay on a sofa and stared at the ceiling for nearly 3 months, I was completely distraught.  I eventually got my life back and, although I still miss mum, I have got on with life as she would have wished.  It's going to be hard for your mum, being a twin must make it very hard, but give her time, and she wil eventually start having good days again.  Take care. x

I'm so so sorry for your loss. An thanks for all the advice it helps alot. Seen her today after work today was a good day thank you xxx