Hi I don't know if this is still being read but I wanted to reply after reading this when I was in search of help. I am truly heartbroken. My dad found out last wk that his cancer has spread into his lungs and it's terminal. He has just 3 mnths to live. He is 62 and since my mum passed at age 49, 11 yrs ago, he has become a mum and a best friend as well . I am not coping well and can't stop crying when alone. I don't know what to do without him and a big part of it is that I fee it's unfair. He is devoted to his grandkids and adore my youngest who is 2. She loves him to bits but won't even remember him. I have no idea whether to tell her anything as she won't understand and what do I say when he doesn't visit? We both moved into the same road to be near each other. Other than my daughter's brothers and myself and my husband, she has no other close adult in her life.

I don't know what to do or to say but my dad is very poorly and can't enjoy what life he has left.

hello my angel i feel for you so so much i have just been told that my mum has a shadow on her lung so i cant imagine what you must be going through but you have got people to talk to i just wanted to reply to you my heart really goes out to you xxx

Hi there,

I'm a 52 year old mum, who hasbreast, bowel and secondary lung cancer I'm incurable and it is hard at times, but like your mum I'm fighting it as best I can. I too have two children, my son is 31 and my daughter is 28 and expecting her 1st child next month.I wish my daughter would talk to me about how she's feeling, it worries me as I know that as soon as she's left me its probably then she crys and I cannot comfort her or talk about the what ifs and when.

I too try to stay strong in front of them and if I'm having a bad day, I turn to this forum as many people understand what you are going through and offer such lovely words of wisdom.

My granddaughter is 9 and we have decided not to tell her I have cancer, we have told her I had to have my booby cut off and she laughed and asked if I would be getting new ones like her auntie. When my hair fell out I told her it was the horrible medicine doing it. She has seen the picc line in my arm, and we've told her I might need some more nasty medicine. This she has excepted. It breaks my heart to think about the grandkids and I'm sure your mum is the same, but at the same time they give me strength. With so many negatives I now try to flip it to a positive. It does help. If I could give you one piece of advice, talk openly and honest with your mum, your both feel better after.

All my love Toni

My mum is getting ct results today at 3.10 im so ao scared she is 54 and has 4 children and 3 very young grankids she has had a very bad cough since oct and doc sent her for an xray which must of showed something so ct was done on tue and now thur we are goin to see lung specialist im hoping for good news but i dont know what to think either .

Oh my God, you are all so brave and srong, I feel a total and utter feeble, weak coward who is so scared of what comes next I'd almost rather opt out, though I NEVER EVER WOULD do anything silly I just can't face the thought of that damn awful (not so) merry go round again. I see the oncologist etc on Monday where I'm expected to agree to either surgery and/or radio - and maybe chemo - again......... what I want is a bucket of sand to hide my head in..... if only I could switch off for a few hours at least. I totally wish you all the very best of luck and love.... reading the blogs it looks like Monday is a big day for a lot of us.