Hi Gill,

Thanks for that...it was pretty windy at Lingfield.  We are off to the dogs at Brighton tonight!!  Should be warmer -- inside that is! I've been before as a magistrates social, funny enough, some years back.

Keep smiling

Virtual hugs

Ian

Hello Ian not spoken for a while but have surffed and kept up with your news and notice how much happier you seem and have been able to move on like you have ..I still miss my Tony terribly,its so hard I find ithard to move on ,but so pleased that you are able too ..I see you are going to the dog races I presume you mean greyhounds I dont agree with grehound racing the beautiful graceful animals are money making machines and when they no longer winners the owners dont want them anymore some arelucky enough to go to the greyhound trust and fosterhomes until forever homes are found some arnt so lucky and we know what happens to them My greyhound Rusty is my rock and best friend and they make such wonderful pets who can then run for fun ..Ian this is my opinion and dont want to offend you take care Susananne.....

Hi Susananne,

Its okay I don't disagree with you ... it is exactly the same with race horses and the way they get treated too.  However, I am unable to stop that myself and it's an aspect of life... and so I shall see it.   Some of the dogs are treated okay I am sure.  Was your Rusty a greyhound rescue ... did he race before you had him?

My Jack is off with my daughter today doing an energy company advertisement for TV I think? Not sure which one though ... she will know... but as a border collie he loves being stretched mentally at these things.

Regarding my relationship.  I found that I needed someone to give meaning to my life moving forward and was thus open to see what I might find out there.  It's been quite an eye opener and you have to be so very careful and cautious - particularly as a women I think.  But there are genuine people both widowed or divorced out there with similar needs both of companionship and if that works out greater closeness but there's never any hurry.  After my wife everything I experience now is extra.  I can't complain.  However, what I have found is really special and so I'd say Susananne, don't close up completely, I am sure there will be a very different but kindred spirit out there to share some friendship with....

Lots of kind thoughts

Ian

Hello Ian ,thankyou for returning my message ,in answer to your question yes Rusty is an ex racer ,he did well for his first 2 years then slowed down was badly bumped in some and has quite a few scars bless him he raced at Walthemstow we have had him since he was 3 he is 10 now but still likes a run and is gentle as a lamb..I think you are brave moving on good luck and be happy ..Tony and I were married for 40 years and so happy and in love ..I lost him last year 2013in Feb so early days for me I cant ever see a new life at present ..He was so precious to me ..Your daughters Jack is a star good boy  nice she shares him with you and great company too ..Take care Ian...Susananne...

Thanks Susananne,

Debbie died in Jan 13 after 34 years of marriage bliss ... so I do understand....I guess I am just a bit further in my coping and moving on?  There is clearly no right or wrong to these things; its all individual.  My situation does come with emtional issues to cope with that are difficut too ... But we are where we find ourselves.  My heart does go out to you in your current situation and believe strongly he would have wanted you to be happy how ever that is.

Lots more kind thoughts and a virtual hug

Ian

Hi Jules,

Glad to see on your thread things are good at the moment for you ~ although that word sounds somehow inadequate!?  That hubby seems to be coping as well as he can must be helpful.

Things have been going along well with me at the moment.  I have now met all my new ladies family, including her former husband, the father of her children! .... and all is well.  So there is a future beyond the sadness if you can find it!  It comes, I find, with some personal guilt for one's loss and the guilt for feeling the guilt when with another (!) but these are all just new growth stages one has to go through to begin the mission out from the old world  - we would have liked to have stayed with but can't  - to the new world we must embrace..

Lots of hugs

Ian x

Morning Ian,

Glad to read this recent post from you and happy to hear all is going well with your New lady.

I thought it might be as you are not posting as often which indicates a healthy business.

Guilt is not really a useful emotion, I know I do it.

I don't think you have any reason to do guilt either for Debbie or your new Lady.

I am sure you did everything you could for Debbie.

Guilt has no place or use here.

Get on and grab your New World.

Loads of hugs

Annabel. xx

Morning Ian

So happy to read that all is going well with your new relationship, long may you continue to find your 'moving forward' journey  brings you contentment.  If its the right time for both of you then its meant to work.

Hubby'sbirthday yesterday and we had fish and chip takeaway with our daughter and family so plenty to smile about as he managed to eat it all!!  Mind you he only had coffee and biscuits for lunch so that he could cope.  Was pleased to see the interaction between him and the grandchildren and this time it was me who dropped off to sleep in front of the tv after they had gone home.  No two days really the same but just being grateful at present.

Returning the hugs and wishing you a happy week ahead.  Hope you and your family are all keeping well.  Roll on summer!!

Jules xx

Ian

Really pleased to hear things are go so well with your new lady.  You should not feel guilty as, despite many peoples perception, life does go on and it is good that you are open to this and whatever it may bring.  I know some people do find it difficult to move on and contemplate a new relationship but they are missing out on all that can bring.

Long may it continue.

Jules

Did hubby like his portapuzzle?  Nice to hear a good time was had by all even if he just had coffee and biscuits for lunch to make sure he could eat the fish and chips.

Big Virtual Hugs to you both.

Gill