Thoughts on the Dying Process

I insert my late wife's thoughts.  She died of Kidney cancer of the lymph glands on 19th January this year.  She was very positive to the end and tried hard to learn and share her experience for the benefit of others.

Please feel free to view and read and share with anyone who would benefit.  Debbie's horror was dying young and mine is living without her but her message is one of hope. xxx

  • Hi Ian

    Glad to hear that you had a good day out in Chichester.  I was born there and whilst I moved away in 1987 many of my family are still based there. I love to visit but do not get back there as often as I woudl like as it is over two hours away from my present home in Milton Keynes.

    Hope all continues to go well with your new lady.  You deserve some happiness.

    Best wishes.

    Gill

  • Hi Gill,

    Thanks for that x. Debbie and I use to live in Guildford and when we moved back down to the south coast use to regularly meet friends from Guildford in Chichester for weekends away.  As we are about equi-distant to Chichester as Guildford is.

    Have a sunny day !

    Ian x

  • Hi Jules,

    Yes I'm not sure moving away is necessarily the solution to anything either.  I live very close to and was born in Eastbourne.  As a town it is filled with lonely, old widows where people have retired there from all over, within a year or so one partner dies and the other one is isolated from all they knew!! But hey nothing so strange as folk, as they say!

    This weekend Jack will be visiting Hove for the first time!  We will see how that goes ...

    Lots of hugs

    Ian x

  • Hi Annabel,

    Just curious as to what type of tree you were waiting for the other day?  I have grown a few from seed in the past and have some still in my garden source that way.  I live in the sticks too and know what you mean by having supportive neighbours even if they are at a distance!!

    Lots of kind thoughts

    Ian x

  • Hi Ian,

    It's lovely to read about the new lady in your life.

    As Gill rightly says, you deserve some happiness.

    Enjoy this spring weather and have a good weekend.

    Hugs to you, Jo xx

  • Morning Ian

    Just wanted to wish you (and Jack) a great Hove weekend.Am sure you will have a very happy weekend (truly deserved after all that dogsitting).  Hope you get some sunshine too.  hugs.  Jules xx

  • Hi Jules,

    Thanks for the good wishes.  We (jack and I and my lady from Hove) had a super weekend.  Jack met and played with her adult children and had a whale of a time.  It was great weather too.  We also went out for lunch on Sunday with my sister, brother-in-law and their teenage kids: all new experiences!  So yep currently things are good.

    How did your weekend span out in the end?  Were you able to take advantage of the weather?

    Big virtual hug

    Ian xx

  • Hi Ian

    Glad to hear you had such a good weekend.  The weather has been great up until now which helps although I gather it is due to change midweek and likely to get wet again.

    Daughter came home from Uni on Friday but went back early on Saturday afternoon as friends had managed to get tickets for Spamalot.  I know where her prioties lie.  That said she is due back at the end of this month for four weeks so I should not complain.  Thankfully she has not been around too much when I have had the treatment and have off days although she will be home for cycles 5 and 6 which are probably going to be the worst.  I know she will be fine and will do all she can to help.  Thankfully she will not ask me to help with any homework.  She is studying physics which goes sailing right over my head.

    Best wishes.

    Gill

  • Hi Ian

    Sounds like everyone had a great weekend and the weather was the icing on the cake. Lovely here too and I worked a lot out in the garden - very therapeutic .Had daughter and family for a few hours on Saturday (so played footie with the eldest whilst hubby had cuddles with baby).  Sunday I was outside the  majority of the day and managed to finish weeding the back garden so could sit and read for a couple of hours before the shade encroached too far and I was back indoors.  Hubby spent much of the day dozing.  Today he has sorted prescriptions out and been for blood tests (he has next check up with consultant next week and he current mood is a reflection of that - enough said).  Weather permitting he will be going fishing with our son in a few weeks time so something for him to look forward to.

    Have a great week and lets hope we get a few more decent days - life feels a lot brighter when the suns out.  Hugs are returned  Jules xx

  • Hi Ian,

    Sorry that was a typo........!!!!!!  LOL.

    It was supposed to say tree man.

    We have ordered 2 large holly trees to go in the front garden. They need to go in a specific place in the garden and he came to tell us how much it was going to cost and when he could do it.

    One of the things that happens around here is if you meet a neighbour/ friend on the road they stop and talk from car to car. You hold every body up and the locals all just seem to accept it. Sometimes like if it's our Shirl( a local lass) we all stop and talk to her one car at a time. What are we like.!!! Mad but lovely. People have time for each other.

    Hugs

    Annabel. xx