Hello Tanya,

Yes a clean body is a lovely feeling but a hassle to achieve as bits of it go wrong I know!  How about something plastic and inflatable attached to your tortuous chair? I don't know what's available where you are but I'm thinking of a child's 'rubber ring' that goes round their middle or a cushion that's designed to attach with suction cups to the side of a bath.  I know you don't have a lot of puff but there's probably a way round that....or you can get mats meant to go in the bath made of a sort of heavy duty jelly...

angelinthemaking

Dear Tanya,

Sorry I've not written until now.

Until two minutes ago I was locked out of every computer when I tried to get to this site and I've been beside myself because I couldn't sign in.  I even emailed Tony to tell you (sorry Tony, I'll send you a proper apology later).

Thanks for acknowledging what I write to you.  I know you get the good intent behind the words.  But you know, it's you who's done so much and has all the words.  I wonder if you realise it.

You're the voice of so many people. Rewind to how frustrated you were with the 'cancer - equates with silence of the sufferer' attitude of people who didn't have cancer.  You weren't silent.  I liked that.

I was fed up with some of the comments people without cancer made, sometimes made from the best intentions and sometimes not.  The worse thing was that people without cancer seemed to be getting the last word; while the person with cancer seethed silently.  It seems that just because a person gets cancer, they don't stop thinking like a person without it.  That means they sometimes accept being silent!

I've been able to look at posts over the time I haven't been able to sign in.  I often look at Angel in the Making's crew.  They acknowledge death, but treat it like piped music that can be heard but not listened to.  Cancer may turn the volume up and they'll have to take notice one day, but not yet...

When I see those posts, I think you're writing here has had a lot to do with those people who have but aren't cancer.

On a personal level I have to refer to a post from Angel in the Making.  Someone suggested she contact you and one of the things she said was 'they say people live longer who are loved.'  Think back to the lonely person who first wrote here to the person who's loved now.

Best wishes,

Kathy

Dear Tanya,

You're getting dangerously close to page 2 so you need to get writing.

Love and prayers.

Kathy

Dear Tanya,

In answer to your post, yes, you are in our minds and prayers.

Now, I have something to ask you (don't take it the wrong way).  I tend to wonder if you play a game to see who'll write to you for the longest.

If so, does the winner get a prize?

Best wishes

Kathy

I am trying to set up a group that does nice things like theatre, meals out, walks etc when we are well to focus on the good times and the future, please let me know if you are interested, manchester area or travel, I am also incurable but have had a break from chemo to recover so have had a few good weeks and realised how good life can be again, had chemo again today, then starting a a different one in 4 weeks.my tumors havent shrunk but thy havent grown so not that bad i suppose.

Hothead xx

Dear hothead49,

That's a good idea.

Can I ask you to post your message as a new thread, in the Dying with Cancer section as well?   Then it'll reach even more people?

Thanks.

Kathy

It is my total scheme to see how many people actually leave me messages mo ha ha.... Hugs to Kathy =)

No, I'm really not fairing well at all with this weather!!  It has been absolutely making everyone ornry becuz its ungodly too muggy!!  Heat we can handle but when i cant breath in it cuz I'm not a fish?  Its just too much so I've been rather madusa like in my ways. Gimme winter, gimme spring, gimme fall but lemme skip Africa hot!

I speak of my weight becuz the RN makes me speak of my weight once a week, I can stop writing that part of my life if it bothers too many of my friends; just holler, I'll take no offense =)

I haven't got much to say as this evening I am just discouraged with this weather, my apologies for lacking creativity, as a matter of fact, I haven't had creativity in quite sometime, I've been great with rambling however.......Ugh

Time to take my 5 Dilaudid & no offense taken btw Kathy =)

Someone come take this wet air aay from here for me pleaseeeeeeee, I thank you all in advance......

<3 XOXOXOXO <3

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Dearest Tanya,

It's good to hear from you.

I'm sorry the hot weather you're having is such a trial to you.  Have you hijacked all of the fans in the area and left everyone else gasping?  I hope so.

I hope your pain medication is working for you too.

I don't see how your weight loss could offend anyone; certainly not me anyway.  I find it comforting in an odd way.  Let me explain.  The saying here in England (you might say it in America) is that 'it's not over until the fat lady sings.'

Love and prayers

Kathy

Wonder who's to dare to blame someone in such situation

for the lack of creativity.

I also suppose many people here would agree to lack new poems etc

if the energy would instead go into improving condition of the writer.

There are also encouraging shifts in author's writing style, how many smiles

in the text.

Well, the Immune Stars are being asked to alter the action to strengthen

body on the deepest levels... hope they'll do.