Dad is dying

we were told today that my dads cancer has spread, don’t know primary source because he had a couple but now in lung, stomach, bladder, liver and nodes around osophegus! Last two days he’s slept and not eating ! He couldn’t make his consultant appointment so I went to collect the results! Consultant said because of his rapid decline he may only have weeks! 
what does that mean?! I’m not ready for this , I don’t know how to be in this world without him! 
im angry and I can’t stop breaking down- he is like a skeleton and I can’t bare to see him go through this ! It’s just so quick ! Consultant put in urgent referral for some nursing support at home but how long does this take? We want to keep him at home in his own bed but don’t know if this is even possible ! 
I’m dreaming about him and waking up early hours crying ! 

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  • Katie I would not normally consider replying to a post like this but the headline made me. In 2007 my Father died of prostate cancer and it will get to much to soon very quickly, if you can when your on your own to holdout your hands in front of you and realise his blood is running through your hands, his DNA , he'll always be with you no matter what happens.

  • Thank you so much for your reply! I’m so sorry that you’ve been through this too! 
    we now have nursing support and he is in his own bed, only hours they’ve told us. He has a drive with strong pain relief to keep him comfortable. 
    im breaking and although I don’t want this prolonging for his sake Im not ready for him to leave! What do I do without him! On Friday I helped him get dressed and he was sitting in his chair talking and overnight he just nose dived to this! It’s all too quick. How is this happening so quickly !! Was it this quick for your dad? How do you even process it! 

  • Hi Katie5111,

    Sorry to hear about your dad and struggles you are going through but you are not along. I have two daughters that have just lost their daddy 3 weeks ago to cancer. There is support out there and on here if you want to talk. We always here  It's going to hard in the beginning but it does get better after a while. Try to be strong, crying is good we are only human.

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  • Hi Katie5111,

    Sorry to hear about your dad and struggles you are going through but you are not along. I have two daughters that have just lost their daddy 3 weeks ago to cancer. There is support out there and on here if you want to talk. We always here  It's going to hard in the beginning but it does get better after a while. Try to be strong, crying is good we are only human.

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