Days to live - Dad has cancer in his pancreas, liver and stomach. Now his kidneys and lungs are failing. I don't know how to deal with this

Last tuesday my dad got taken to hospital as he wasn't feeling too good. That night the doctors came in and told us devastating news that dad has cancer in his pancreas, liver and stomach. My mum and I felt crushed. Every day we have gone to the hospital to be with him, last night they told us his kidneys are failing. Today we find out the cancer is in his lungs and he has only days to live. I dont know how to deal with this. 

Its all happened so quick. We knew my dad was poorly due to diabetes but I really thought we would have longer with him. Its been a tough few days. Theres so many answers I need. Why did he have no symptoms, why did the diabetic nurses not pick up on it. He had regular blood tests. Im not blaming the diabetic nurses but would the blood tests not show he has cancer or theres something wrong. 

  • Hey Sim1one,

    I noticed you haven't had a reply just yet so I wanted to reassure you that your post has been seen and offer you a very warm welcome to the forum.

    I'm so sorry to hear what has happened with your dad and that he only has days left now. I can't begin to imagine what you and your mum must be going through but I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that I and the rest of the Cancer Chat community are thinking of you and sending you all our support at this extremely difficult time.

    I know nothing I can say will make this any easier but I want you to know that if you or any other members of your family need to talk to someone, our team of cancer nurses are available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

    Do keep posting if you find it helps Sim1one and remember that we will always be here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator