My husband has liver cancer he has just been put on palliative care ,we have been told he has only weeks to live , l am so upset l can’t stop crying l don’t know what to do
Guess the lack of replies speaks to the difficulty of "knowing what to say". No words, particularly from strangers, can alleviate your distress.
Just over 7 years ago my wife was discharged to home in same circumstances - although it was near impossible to get any stated "time". Because at home I was kept very busy, not just caring but chasing the promised daily help (I was told a nurse would visit day after discharge - in the event nearer three weeks!). Keeping busy helps deaden emotions.
I managed 5 weeks and then with immense effort found my wife a hospice bed for last 3 days.
If you are in similar position, husband at home, then practicalities will numb the pain. And it's exhausting ,- I had to sleep on the floor next to her bed in lounge. Actually more difficult I guess if your only role is visiting and soothing and if so then just talk ......happier times maybe?
Like everything it will pass and having a stated time frame is I think a help, although it probably doesn't feel it now.
All I can do is send a virtual "hug" and my great sympathy. Take care of yourself also.
