Dear MrsC1234

I am so sorry to hear about your dad.

The only thing that can help, is being there for him, do your best to show him how much he means to you, what a good dad he was to you, even if you think he is delirious, still talk to him as if he is fully awake. I know its no consolation but in the end you will look back knowing you did all that you can.  As for not feeling as sad as you feel you should, well  that's understandable, its all such a shock and it can take months to understand how you really feel.

I went through this with my husband, I told him how much I loved him constantly, held his hand, washed him, brushed his teeth (he was a very proud man) as I am sure your dad is, and it made me feel better, carrying out this small actions.

It does not matter what the age is, it is the worst thing in the world to watch the deterioration of a loved one.  Don't forget your feelings, you are important in this journey.

I am sorry I can not help you further.  Wishing you lots of strength and peace in your journey. xx

Hi,

Thanks for your good advice regarding my dad it is a terrible time as you know. I hope you are recovering ok from your loss too.

Your advice is very helpful.

Best wishes xx

Grief  is something that can be so unpredictable.  I still work so am constantly dealing with the public. When I have a day off, I enjoy being by myself and actually find peace and calm in my own company.

I seem to have moved on to the stage where I can think of my husband without constantly thinking about the pain he had been in for the past year.

I wish you well, just keep doing what you can for your dad xx

That's good that you have been able to do that regarding your husband its so tough isnt it. You don't want the image of them being sick in your head always so replacing that with the happy memories you shared is great.

Thank you re my dad its like being in a bad dream whilst all this is going on.

xx